7 Steps of Change for a Positive Narcissistic Mid-Life Crisis

Understanding Today's Narcissist

Christine Hammond, MS, LMHC

Education, Health & Fitness, Mental Health

4.6 • 602 Ratings

🗓️ 7 June 2019

⏱️ 16 minutes

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Summary

Chuck knew he was a jerk. He cheated on his wife several times, put his work before his family, rarely went to his kid’s activities, drank heavily on the rare occasions that he was home, and verbally berated anyone who challenged him. And yet, he was a highly successful businessman, intelligent about a wide range of topics, had numerous friends, and was charming (when he wanted to be). Nonetheless, despite getting his way most of the time, Chuck was miserable.

He toyed with counselors in the past, going only when needed to preserve his marriage, but not putting any real effort into changing. Instead, he would strategically turn the counselors against his wife over many sessions, leaving her a bigger mess than when they began. He was proud of his ability to manipulate situations that normally would be to his detriment into his benefit. This precise skill was used in business as well to make him far more successful than his natural abilities.

But here he was at the mid-point of his life, wondering what was it all for? He made money to spend it on cars, boats, and houses but these things just needed more money to exist. He was a rags-to-riches story but never seemed to fill the hole in his heart that told him, “You will never amount to anything.” He had sex to feel intimacy and connection but couldn’t feel satisfied. He had a family to secure a sense of belonging but instead found shame.

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1:41.1	And now here's your host, Christine Hammond.
1:47.9	Hi, and welcome back. Today I want to talk to you about seven steps for a positive change of a
1:56.5	narcissist who might be going through a midlife crisis. And I know that sounds like a mouthful.
2:02.0	And let me explain where I'm going with this. I have a lot of clients that I see that fit this profile. And they are
2:07.6	narcissistic and they are going through their midlife crisis, which happens anytime between the
2:13.6	ages of 40 and 60, really. It's been a little bit extended. It used to be around 40, but it's been's been a little bit extended it used to be around 40 but it's
2:19.2	been moved back a little bit at least that's what I've seen in my practice and so what we're
2:24.4	going to do is we're going to profile Chuck and we're going to talk a little bit about what his life is
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