Welcome back to the place we find ourselves podcast coming to you from the

absolutely gorgeous city of Fort Collins, Colorado. I'm Adam Young and today

we're going to look at how your attachment style affects the way you relate to

other people. This is episode seven. Thanks for listening.

Okay, today we are going to talk about three types of insecure attachment. So we're

continuing our dialogue about attachment and we are going to get into the various ways when you

develop an insecure attachment, the various ways that that you experience that and what that's

like. But first a brief review on attachment. Remember attachment refers to the manner in which

you connect with other people, particularly your parents, the people that you are closest to.

It's the emotional bond that you develop with these people and it's important to understand that

attachment is a biological drive. We are wired. We are hardwired to attach to other people

in order to survive. And so when we perceive threat or danger, we are hardwired to seek protection

from someone who we know is always there for us and who truly knows us. We are hardwired to go

to them, to be close to them, to maintain proximity to them because it gives us a feeling

hopefully of safety. But as we'll see with insecure attachment, the safety is not always there.

So there are four categories of attachment. There is a secure attachment and then there are

three categories of insecure attachment. And we are going to talk about those three categories

today. They are avoidant attachment, ambivalent attachment, and disorganized attachment.

And these attachment categories stay consistent across a lifetime, generally speaking. In other words,

when you identify the attachment style of a one-year-old, they have done tons of research that

if you then look at their attachment style as a 19-year-old, it is the same. And so

obviously I wouldn't be doing this podcast if I didn't think you could

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