I don't mean to be disrespectful.

Except for you do.

I'm Angela Duckworth.

I'm Stephen Dubner.

And you're listening to No Stupid Questions.

Today on the show, we all need feedback to improve.

So why is it so hard to hear criticism?

If you don't give him critical feedback, what he could have done better.

He tells you what a terrible person you are.

He just denigrates you.

Also, which is the more meaningful act?

Celebrating a friend's accomplishment or supporting them through a loss?

Most people already know to be supportive when someone is having a bad day.

So it's okay to ditch them because you already know that.

Whereas if something good happens, I want to be there for the champagne.

Stephen.

Angela.

Everyone I know recognizes that feedback makes you better, whatever it is that you're trying to do,

but nobody I know likes to be criticized. So, you know, what do you think that is? So I do love

that question, but let me ask you a couple questions about the question. So you're linking

feedback and criticism. Negative feedback, right? When you said feedback makes you better, I believe in

that more than I believe in just about anything on earth. If you want to improve, you need really good

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