#691: Self-Consciousness Isn't the Problem—This Is
The Confidence Podcast: Mindset Coaching and Tips to Overcome Self-Limiting Beliefs, Self-Doubt, Perfectionism, Overthinking, Impostor Syndrome and Insecurity
Trish Blackwell | Life Coach, Confidence Coach, Mindset Coach
4.9 • 1.6K Ratings
🗓️ 17 February 2026
⏱️ 23 minutes
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Summary
Self-consciousness isn't the real problem—it's just the symptom.
In this episode, we're breaking down what's actually happening when you feel hyper-aware, awkward, hesitant, or overly focused on how you're coming across. Most people try to "fix" self-consciousness by forcing confidence, faking boldness, or trying to stop caring what people think—but that approach never lasts.
Instead, you'll learn:
- Why self-consciousness is a sign of misdirected focus, not insecurity
- The internal habit that keeps confidence fragile and dependent on others
- How to shift from self-monitoring to self-trust
- The simple mindset change that makes self-consciousness fade naturally
If you've ever felt stuck in your head, overly aware of yourself in conversations, or hesitant to fully show up as you are—this episode will help you feel grounded, calm, and confident again.
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| 0:00.0 | Have you ever noticed that the more you try to not be self-conscious, the worse it gets, the more |
| 0:07.5 | awkward you feel. You tell yourself, just relax, like, be chill, be cool, stop thinking |
| 0:13.3 | about yourself, be confident. But your body gets tenser, your mind gets louder, and you |
| 0:20.8 | feel more awkward. You're more in your louder, and you feel more awkward. |
| 0:22.6 | You're more in your head, and you can't get out of your head. |
| 0:26.6 | And what most people don't know about self-consciousness and feeling self-conscious |
| 0:31.5 | is that that's actually not the problem. |
| 0:34.9 | It's not proof that you're insecure. |
| 0:36.8 | It doesn't mean you're awkward. It's not a personality flaw. You're not doing anything wrong. It's not proof that you're insecure. It doesn't mean you're awkward. |
| 0:37.9 | It's not a personality flaw. You're not doing anything wrong. It's not, honestly, it's not |
| 0:42.6 | even anything you need to fix. In this episode today, I'm going to show you what actually |
| 0:48.7 | creates self-consciousness and why, how once you you understand that confidence will be something that you |
| 0:56.8 | can return to so easily, so naturally, and it won't be something that you force. By the end of |
| 1:03.1 | this episode, you'll know exactly what to shift so you can stop watching yourself be cringe |
| 1:10.4 | and start trusting yourself to be that |
| 1:12.7 | version of you that the people closest to you, they know that's there and that's vibrant and |
| 1:17.6 | fully engaged and fully free. We're going to tap into that today. Welcome to the Confidence |
| 1:23.0 | podcast, your go-to space for high-performance coaching designed for ambitious, high-achieving individuals |
| 1:30.0 | who want more out of life. You deserve the confidence that rises to meet your dreams. |
| 1:36.2 | This podcast will help you activate it fully. I'm your host, Trish Blackwell. Let's get started. |
| 1:44.0 | Hey there, I'm Trish Blackwell. Welcome to the Confidence Podcast. You're listening to episode 691. If you are new to the show, welcome. I'm so glad you took a risk. Look, it's like picking a new podcast, even if it's recommended to you. It's a risk. It's like watching Netflix. You're like, I don't want to commit. There's so many choices. So I just want to thank you for the privilege it is to be a voice of encouragement, motivation, hope, truth, whatever it might be to make your day better today. I hope that you come back. You love the show. If you're a returning listener, I love you. Make sure |
| 2:18.5 | you're following the show. Did you know about 30% of you that listen to every single week |
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