685: David DeSteno | Emotional Success

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🗓️ 9 January 2018

⏱️ 49 minutes

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David DeSteno (@daviddesteno) is a professor of psychology at Northeastern University and author of Emotional Success: The Power of Gratitude, Compassion, and Pride. The Cheat Sheet: Why is delaying gratification so hard and why is it important? Why willpower runs counter to our evolutionary programming and often fails. Why developing prosocial emotions -- gratitude, compassion, and pride -- is a superior strategy for self control. Why reason is biased and allows us to rationalize giving into temptation. What are the health risks of trying to achieve goals by the force of sheer willpower? And so much more... Full show notes at https://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/david-desteno-emotional-success-episode-685/ Find out more about the team who makes The Art of Charm podcast here! Learn over 500 subjects (no tests or homework!) at The Great Courses Plus -- The Art of Charm listeners get one month free here! DesignCrowd helps startups and small businesses crowdsource custom graphics, logos, Web design -- even tattoo designs! Check out DesignCrowd.com/Charm for a special $100 VIP offer for our listeners or enter the discount code CHARM when posting a project. Want to spend less time shopping for insurance and take advantage of every possible discount? Visit meetamica.com/Forbes and find out why 95% of customers with combined auto and home policies stay with Amica! Did you know that your old and aging tech is costing you time and money? It’s time to upgrade to a new HP. AoC Family can go to hp.com/charm, enter code CHARM, and save 35% on select HP Business products with Intel Core processors! CastBox introduces an in-audio search capability that offers a brand new way to search for podcasts you may love based on words or topics. Download CastBox for iOS or Android and enter promo code AOC under Go Premium for six free months of premium features! Does your business have an Internet presence? Now save a whopping 50% on new webhosting packages here with HostGator by using coupon code CHARM! Free yourself from typing notes, reports, and documents by going with the transcriptionists we trust here at AoC: TranscriptionOutsourcing.net -- 99% or higher accuracy guaranteed! HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need. Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereview Stay Charming!

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0:00.0	We feel grateful and we feel compassion. We feel proud of our abilities and want to share those skills.
0:04.8	The brain interprets that as reward and that makes us more willing to keep doing it and to persevering in this way.
0:13.5	Welcome to the Art of Charm. I'm Jordan Harbinger and I'm here with producer Jason de
0:17.4	Philipo. On this episode we're talking with David Disteno. He's a professor of psychology at
0:23.0	Northeastern University and the head of what's called the social emotions group sound right up
0:28.4	our alley. That's what I thought. So essentially his work examines the mechanisms of the mind that
0:33.5	shape vice and virtue studying hypocrisy, compassion, pride, punishment, cheating, trust. His work
0:39.9	just continually reveals that human moral behavior is much more variable than we might predict. And
0:45.3	his new book is called emotional success, the power of gratitude, compassion and pride. And of
0:50.4	course, when I first saw that title, I thought, Oh, gratitude and compassion and pride. Oh, we've
0:53.7	already done this. You know, I don't need more of this. But today, we're going to discover what's
0:58.2	called pro social emotions. These are grit and will powers more powerful cousins, more effective
1:04.8	cousins, I should say. And we'll explore why pro social emotions are actually more beneficial,
1:09.8	both short and long term and will make the case for leveraging these emotions and skills instead
1:15.0	of just trying harder plowing through, keeping our head down or working harder to resist or to
1:21.0	accomplish something. And of course, we'll also discuss how we can cultivate these pro social
1:25.2	emotions as learnable skills and how these skills will benefit us and those around us for years
1:31.1	to come. As always, there's worksheets for today's episodes. You can make sure you solidify your
1:35.2	understanding of all the key takeaways from David to Steno. That link is always in the show notes
1:40.2	at the art of charm.com slash podcast. Now let's hear from David to Steno. The reason that we
1:46.4	wanted to have you on the show is because at your work at Northeastern University, I'd heard about
1:51.5	this and I thought, okay, we've had Angela Duckworth come on and talk about grit. We've had people come
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