Welcome to episode 684 with my guest Kendra Petty. This is the

mental illness, huh? We're off to a good start. This is the

metal illness happy hour and this is a place for honesty about all the battles in our heads just

keep in mind I'm not a therapist and the show's not meant to be a substitute for

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Mental Pod. I was, played cards with a comedian group of friends last night and first of all, so much fun,

so much laughter.

And one of the things we started reminiscing about was there was this very nice woman that used to book comedy clubs back in the back in the day. We're talking decades ago and she was very well meaning. But oh my

God you would be on the phone with her just trying to book a single date, not a date with her, a comedy club date.

And you could not get off the phone with her.

She would over-explain things a thousand times hardly ever took a breath just

talking a mile and a minute saying nothing and it got me thinking about how so many of us can be so blind to what our

coping mechanism is because as I look back now I used to think of her as just annoying and clueless

and very kind of judgmental but I look back now and I'm like that was her

coping mechanism she was dealing with something whether it's she was used to She was

afraid of silence, you know, that history of

history of silence was uncomfortable or led to something or afraid that she's not enough but I think each

of us or at least many of us have some kind of glaring coping mechanism

that people who are kind of attuned to the psychology of emotion and

and coping mechanisms can see in 30 seconds

from a complete stranger and so many of us can live our entire lives not even being aware

that we've got this glaring blunt primitive tool to cope. And I don't know know that's one of the things that I like about

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