Hi, friends. This week we're talking about standards and how they keep you safe because there's not been one time in my entire life when I have dropped my standards or crossed my own boundaries for something or someone and how to good experience. It's always bit me in the ass.

So I'm going to teach you how your standards keep you safe and how to stop fucking up. But I'm not kidding. I literally regretted every single time I do not act in line with my standards that I have for people or situations. Every single time.

Like not once did it go good and that's because your standards keep you safe and protect you from experiences you're not supposed to have and your standards keep you safe and protect you from people who are not meant to have access to you.

And I've had plenty of experience with it. So put your seat belt on, bitch. We got a lot to cover in this episode.

But like I said, having standards and respecting them prevents you from allowing people to have access to you that shouldn't be allowed to have access to you.

Because what happens in those situations when someone is in your life that does not meet your standards, they're not going to know how to treat you. They're not going to know how to handle you. They're not going to know how to be there for you.

And that goes for situations too. Like there is standards you can set all over the board across your life.

You got relationships, friendships, your job, basic things like being taken into consideration. That's a standard you should hold.

I 100% think that's the biggest one is requiring someone to take you into consideration no matter what. Even if they're upset, even if they're pissed off, my feelings still matter.

I still matter as a person for you to get mad and throw me to the side. That's not going to fucking fly. And if you can't do that, you're out.

No way fans or butts. Because what happens when you allow someone to discard you because they're emotional or they're dealing with shit. You're discarded.

There's no safety in that relationship. There's no safety in that experience. And there's no safety with that person ever.

So basically your standards set up an expectation for the experiences you're going to have. And if you don't have good standards, your experiences are not going to be good either.

And one thing I want to say really quick about settling is when you settle for something or you drop your standards or drop your boundaries for someone or something that sends you a silent message. And it's not a good one.

When you do not respect the standards you've set for yourself and you accept something beneath what you think you're worth.

That sends you a silent message of that is what you're worth. You're not that valuable.

So your sense of feeling valuable and your components and everything about you and especially the experiences you have are going to come from if you act in line with your standards or not.

Stop fucking dropping them. I love you. I'm going to be rough with you because I love you.

So with setting standards, it's really just about wanting better for yourself and caring that you're upset by something and caring that something could potentially upset you.

Like if you're hurt, that matters. And that will make you aware of the new standards you want to set.

So a lot of people learn through contrast and that's kind of like how the universe is going to throw shit at you.

You're going to learn a lot about what you don't want because it makes you aware of what you do want.

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