Welcome to episode 679 with my guest Heather Gonzalez.

This is the metal illness, happy hour place for honesty about all the

battles in our heads from medically diagnosed conditions,

past traumas, and sexual dysfunction, to everyday

compulsive negative thinking. The show's not meant to be a substitute for

professional mental counseling. I am not a therapist. Back in July we had

Christine Lane as a guest to talk about the intersection of psychology and money and now her company Mind Over Money is a

sponsor. As a financial counselor she helps people get control of their finances

and ditch their shame around money.

Check her out at mindovermoney site.com and listen to our episode 651 and we will put a link to Christine's website again

that's mind over money site.com she's been getting really good results

with the listeners who are employing her services.

Let's jump into some surveys. This is from the Ask Paul Anything Survey and this is filled out by Max.

And he writes, what would you say are the top two things that have changed about your personality in the past years, meaning

what are the things you hated about yourself but you have objectively improved a lot at,

in parentheses, even if you keep telling yourself you are not good at that.

I would say I've gotten, and I've gotten feedback from listeners who say that they can hear this, that I'm less harsh on the

quote mistakes unquote that I make. I'm more comfortable. I think letting people love the parts of me that I'm uncomfortable

with.

and I would say standing up for myself.

That might be the biggest thing in the last couple of years, really the last decade that I've gotten better at and that I think is directly

related to the support group I go to for struggles around intimacy.

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