632 Why We Repeat Painful Relationship Patterns + How to Stop
The Terri Cole Show
Terri Cole
4.9 • 1.5K Ratings
🗓️ 30 July 2024
⏱️ 24 minutes
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Summary
Have you ever immediately disliked someone and wondered why?
Do you have heightened reactions to offhanded comments from strangers?
Do you have a pattern of getting into conflict with specific types of people?
All of these interactions are potential indicators of transference, which is when we have an amplified response to someone in the present because they remind you of something or someone from your past.
Transference is often painful and confusing, which is why I am breaking down what it is (with a personal example) and sharing how you can stop repeating these patterns in your relationships.
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| 0:00.0 | Hey you guys guys it's me Terry and I have a question for you have you ever heard of |
| 0:04.7 | Kelly Corrigan she has this every woman wisdom that people including me just |
| 0:09.7 | gravitate towards Oprah magazine calls her the voice of a generation. |
| 0:13.8 | Huffington Post calls her the poet laureate of the ordinary. |
| 0:17.2 | She also hosts a podcast that I love called the Kelly Corrigan Wonders |
| 0:22.2 | podcast. |
| 0:23.0 | It recently crossed 16 million downloads |
| 0:25.0 | and has been called thought-provoking, |
| 0:27.0 | insightful and honest by her huge community of listeners |
| 0:30.0 | and I think you guys would absolutely love it. |
| 0:33.0 | After I had her on my show, if you want to listen to that episode, go to Terry Cole.com |
| 0:37.0 | forward slash 553, I became a huge fan. |
| 0:41.0 | On her show, Kelly wonders about family ties, our deepest ambitions, and how to be useful |
| 0:46.2 | with people like Brian Stevenson, Bono, Jennifer Gardner, Spike Lee, and so many others. I saw somewhere that someone said she's like a cross between |
| 0:55.4 | Tina Fay and Krista Tippett and I was like yeah that is right on. She's also written |
| 1:00.8 | for New York Times best-selling books about family life. |
| 1:04.4 | So I encourage you to engage with her unique storytelling and magical conversations by tuning into |
| 1:10.4 | her podcast, Kelly Corrigan Wonders. |
| 1:13.7 | You will thank me. |
| 1:18.5 | Well, hello there and welcome to this episode |
| 1:20.7 | of the Terry Cole show. I'm so happy that you are here with me. I want to start with |
| 1:26.1 | a couple of questions. Are there people in your life who you simply cannot stand and you're |
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