Hi, it's me again, your best friend, the person who lives behind your house secretly, Duncan Trussle.

Today we have an incredible podcast for you.

I got really lucky to find this amazing book by Cody Delestrade called The Grief Cure.

As most of you probably know, I have lost some parents. It happens when you get around my age. In fact you know I

remember something I heard Chogim Trumpa Rinpiche say which is like once you get

to a certain age everyone just starts dropping like flies.

This is a happy way to start an episode, but it's true.

And more than likely you've experienced loss, maybe not of a parent, but even just of a pet.

I mean sometimes that can feel as powerful especially if your dog breastfed you.

Sorry I had to cut the camera.

Just thinking about what that was like, you know? I was the run of the litter and that's not fun.

Having to push the other puppies away, but they nip you, they nip your cheek and then no more milk. If you've lost anybody

there's a lot of great books to read but I would start with a grief cure not just because it has some more modern

takes on grieving and the future of grieving but also because it looks into

the history of how humans have dealt with death and just learning that

just knowing that stuff I think could be immensely helpful especially if you're one of the grieving people out there who's gone completely bonkers as most of us do.

There might be some explanations in there for you about why these days when you lose somebody you can feel completely wobbled

Especially the fact and I just found this out today spoiler

Bereavement leave you only I just out today.

Bereavement leave. You only get five days.

Lose a parent, five days.

And then you're back at the fucking office.

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