61 Karl Pillemer, Ph.D.

Couple Things with Shawn and Andrew

Shawn Johnson + Andrew East

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🗓️ 14 April 2021

⏱️ 55 minutes

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We are so excited to have our first solo episode! Today, we talk to Karl A. Pillemer, Ph.D. Karl is a professor of human development at Cornell University and a professor of gerontology in medicine at the Weill Cornell Medical College. An internationally renowned gerontologist, his research examines how people develop and change throughout their lives. He has authored five books and over 100 scientific publications and speaks throughout the world on aging-related issues. He has interviewed hundreds of couples to learn why they fall in love and why they stay in love. We have read all of his books and have learned so much. This episode was so fun! Here are few things we cover: Karl Pillemer’s mission and passion behind his books Dealing with difficult political conversations Honesty within marriage Communication in marriage Three buckets of family estrangements How to deal with differing values in marriage Is finding your spouse: luck or choice? How people change within marriage How money can cause estrangements Hardest conflicts in marriage Can there be a perfect marriage? Qualities to develop for healthy conflicts You can learn more about Karl here ▶ https://www.karlpillemer.com/ You can check out his books here ▶ https://www.karlpillemer.com/books/ If you haven’t yet, please rate Couple Things and subscribe to hear more. Follow us on Instagram to keep the conversation going at https://www.instagram.com/couplething... And if you have suggestions/recommendations for the show, send us your ideas in a video format – we might just choose yours! Email us at [email protected]. We're supported by the following companies that we love! Check them out below: Betterhelp ▶ Visit betterhelp.com/EASTFAM to get 10% off of your first month. Athletic Greens ▶ Visit athleticgreens.com/EASTFAM and get your FREE year supply of Vitamin D and 5 free travel packs today. FAN MAIL ADDRESS: Shawn and Andrew East 750 N San Vicente Blvd., East Tower, 11th Floor, Los Angles, CA 90069 Follow My Instagram ▶ http://www.instagram.com/ShawnJohnson... Like the Facebook page! ▶ http://www.facebook.com/ShawnJohnson Follow My Twitter ▶ http://www.twitter.com/ShawnJohnson Snapchat! ▶ @ShawneyJ Follow AndrewsTwitter ▶ http://www.twitter.com/AndrewDEast Follow My Instagram ▶ http://www.instagram.com/AndrewDEast Like the Facebook page! ▶ http://www.facebook.com/AndrewDEast Snapchat! ▶ @AndrewDEast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	extra props in the family that I was going to be on this. So it's really exciting. These
0:06.1	estrangements and issues with the extended family cause untold problems for couples.
0:18.8	What's up everybody welcome back to couple thing. We're shot in Andrew. A podcast all about
0:23.0	couples and the things they go through today. We have our first solo interview. Okay, we have
0:29.2	mentioned his books. Yes. More than any other reference we've made on the show. We actually
0:34.1	gift them to a lot of our couples. Yes. I'm very excited about this. I'm honored that he took
0:38.8	the time to join us today. We're talking about Dr. Carl Pillamer. He has authored 30 lessons on
0:44.9	living. Yes. 30 lessons on loving and his newest book, Fault Lines. And I have had more
0:50.6	relationship in depth like philosophical conversations regarding his books or stemming from his books.
0:58.4	Then I think anything else we've talked about in a relationship. So Dr. Pillamer is a professor
1:02.7	at Cornell University and he's a gerontologist. Yes. Which means that he works and studies
1:08.6	with old people. Yeah. And so that's the inspiration for these books. It's to sit down with people
1:12.8	who have lived a full life and get their lessons on living, loving. And then also his newest book
1:18.2	Disects How Family Strangements Occur. So any riffs that have happened, any breaks and family
1:24.4	ties that have happened, he wanted to understand why those happen and then also give words of wisdom
1:29.7	as to how to repair these riffs. So you might be asking yourself, this is a couple things. Why are we
1:35.7	not listening to a couple? Well, we thought he had so much wisdom from talking to thousands and
1:42.7	thousands of couples around the world that he could talk about and give such great advice and great
1:48.7	wisdom about couples relationships and all of the drama that comes with it. Yes. And he doesn't
1:54.4	just interview any couples. He interviews couples that have been married for decades. And we talk
1:58.5	about this all the time on our show. We don't necessarily want to give advice. The inspiration for
2:02.6	the show is to share our life experiences as they happen and the things that we're learning through
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