Welcome to the Almost 30 Podcast. I'm Lindsay and I'm Krista and we're your hosts, guides and friends on this path.

Almost 30 is not about your age, it's about the feeling. All of us are almost something, seeking community and resources to support the rumblings of transformation within us.

Our conversations are deep dives, shepherded by our insatiable curiosity and desire for connection and during inspiration and a sense of levity that we can all benefit from.

We're looking to find the magic in the human experience. Vakalab baby, your evolution is glading.

Almost 30 nation. Hello, welcome to the show. Everybody, it's Lindsay and Krista. Thanks for being here.

We are two best friends who started the show seven years ago. We've been rock n' roll and ever since.

We've been doing everything from spirituality to relationships to sex, to career, to everything in between. The weird and the woo woo included.

But today we're talking about one of your favorite topics. Sex.

Guys love sex. Are you repressed? Vakuriosity is so real, but I totally get it. I totally get it. This is not a topic that I feel like is one people feel super comfortable talking about.

Even though they would love to feel comfortable talking about it. And I feel like anytime we see it in the mainstream media, it's always like this weird awkward, corny conversation.

I was thinking about when you're talking, which is not a good way to be a good listener, but just how obsessed we are with kind of the topic of sex and I was thinking about growing up in high school in college how people worked so open to talk about sex.

Where a lot of the times I would hang out with girls, it would be talking specifically in so many details about sex, but it was always about the act and never really about intimacy or nothing really beyond the physical elements of sex and not about for play, not about conversation, not about.

Consensuality there's just so many aspects that we really miss in pop culture and society, especially when there's podcasts or shows or conversations specifically about like the raunchiness of sex where you really miss out on the intimacy, the communication, the special aspects of what makes sex so special in relationship totally.

Yeah, it was always about the raunch part. Oh, yeah, it's very much like how big how small how long how not just the dick, but like how long having sex, how many times which was all well and good and in today's conversation will have those moments of talking about fun positions and things like that, but like there is so much more to having a really beautiful intimate and fulfilling sexual experience that we were never ever taught.

Yes, so to be learning now and like practicing now better late than never, but it takes some reprogramming I've definitely had many a moment in the bedroom where I'm like, oh, yeah, this is the part of me that really leans on being like either hypersexual or goes faster or whatever it is there's just aspects that you have to catch in the moment and be able to just

make another choice.

100% I did my retreat in Mexico, my pleasure and intimacy retreat with Simone Farshi, that was a solo retreat where I did full learning and rewiring of pleasure and my body and sexuality because I've always thought in my mind, you know, in this lifetime and this experience, all the things that I'm going to do were all the ways I'm going to grow and I always felt like sexuality would happen in another lifetime.

I love sex, I love having sex with my partners, but it never felt like something I'd really go deep on. I never felt like a door that I would walk through as like a method of my growth, but it's yeah, I mean, it's been incredible and just seeing all the ways that it impacts other areas of your life, like creativity, like embodiment, like self acceptance, it's really, really powerful.

And in our conversation with Emily, it was really good to talk about the things that are holding us back from having good sex, so whether that's judgment of yourself, emotional trauma, there's so many aspects of our lives in the way that we were brought up or the way that we're interacting with society and culture that really keep us from having that really good sex and when we talk about good sex, it's not just like the movie sex, it's like embodied, relaxed, deep loving or whatever it is.

It's that good sex as defined by you and your body in your nervous system. Yeah, I think relaxed is definitely a keyword, because if I think back to just sex, am I 20s, I don't know if there's a relaxed one of my body unless I was drinking a lot. Yeah.

And I think that's why I would drink where I would feel a bit more relaxed, I would feel more in my body, even though I really wasn't, but I would feel a bit more liberated because sober, the mind is really doing a number and trying to just interject in every moment, because there's so many opportunities to feel embarrassed ashamed, vulnerable, too much too little, I think an important piece for me has been like trust to be able to do it.

To be able to trust a partner, not only in a safety aspect, but really like to see me and to also hold space and for me to hold space as well for like the exploration rather than just this like transaction to happen in a very, you know, contracted way.

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