way to turn the tables on me stephen i'm angela duckworth i'm stephen dubner and you're listening to no stupid questions

today on the show what's the value of complaining oh god i can't believe we have to listen to more talking heads at the end of this

podcast also what do you mean when you say you don't

have time? I'm just in a very socially graceful, but also self-serving way, giving somebody the

brush off. Angela, question for you today. It's actually not a question. It's a command. No stupid commands.

Tell me one thing that you personally complain about

that you probably shouldn't. This is assuming that there are legitimate complaints, of course.

I mean, I complain a lot about my 19-year-old daughter leaving coffee cups on the white counter

and empty splendor packets everywhere.

I can vouch for the volume of your complaints about that.

Okay, well, fair.

It's annoying to me.

And recently, actually, she pointed out to me that this was an irrational pet peeve.

Maybe all pet peeves are irrational.

That the coffee cup wasn't doing any harm,

nor was the Splenda, except to me psychically.

So it's interesting, when you began that rant and you said how bothersome it was,

I thought you were talking about how bothersome your complaining was, that you didn't want to

complain.

Oh.

But you mean the thing that she does

really bothers you and therefore you complain. So the question I asked is what's something you

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