6 Ways Narcissists Test (and Cross) Your Boundaries
The Mental Healness Podcast
Lee Hammock
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🗓️ 8 October 2025
⏱️ 12 minutes
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Narcissists hate boundaries—because boundaries mean control they can’t have. In this video, diagnosed narcissist Lee Hammock reveals the six subtle (and not-so-subtle) ways narcissists test, ignore, and destroy your boundaries. From being late on purpose to calling you “controlling,” these tactics are all designed to wear you down and make you doubt yourself.
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| 0:00.0 | So what are some ways that narcissistic people test your boundaries or just burst through your |
| 0:08.8 | boundaries like a raging river through a old damn? |
| 0:13.3 | That's what we talk about today y'all. Of course, if you knew here, my name is Lee Hammack. |
| 0:23.2 | I'm a diagnosed narcissism myself here to give you the inside look at the mind of a narcissist, |
| 0:28.0 | how narcissists think, how they might act, all the other good stuff, y'all. |
| 0:31.5 | But let's hop right into it. |
| 0:32.8 | I actually took the time and wrote down a list of a few different ways that some narcissists not all will test |
| 0:39.8 | or push your boundaries so before we hop into that y'all the reason narcissists hate boundaries |
| 0:46.0 | is because boundaries mean that you can this is how narcissists view boundaries they view your |
| 0:51.8 | boundaries as you trying to control them. They think you setting a |
| 0:58.9 | boundary or you saying the word no is you trying to control them. And when you control me, |
| 1:05.7 | you make me feel smaller. It makes me feel rejected. So I hate, hate when you set a boundary because boundaries are |
| 1:15.3 | telling me no. I hate the word no unless I'm using it. So keep that in mind when you're going |
| 1:21.0 | through this list or you're dealing with a narcissist in your life and you start trying to set a |
| 1:25.1 | boundary, why they react so negatively to your boundaries, |
| 1:29.1 | why they get so flaming hot when you set a boundary |
| 1:32.5 | or you have something to say, |
| 1:34.0 | or you go about it in that way, |
| 1:35.7 | in a different way, shape, or form, right? |
| 1:37.6 | These are things that you have to consider |
| 1:39.7 | as you're moving forward and trying to understand that. |
| 1:42.0 | Now, that is other way, |
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