Welcome to On Attachment, a place to learn about how attachment shapes the way we experience dating, love and relationships.

I'm your host, relationship coach and attachment expert, Stephanie Rigg, and I'm really glad you're here.

Hey everybody, welcome back to another episode of On Attachment.

So in this episode, we're going to be doing another Q&A.

If you listen to the last Q&A episode, that was sort of all around answering your dating questions. Today I'm going to be answering some questions around

avoidant attachment to continue the theme of this week where we've explored some traits

of both the dismissive avoidant and the fearful avoidant attachment styles.

So a lot of the questions that I've received are coming from the perspective of an anxiously attached person

and sort of getting at how best to navigate being in relationship with an avoidant partner. So just to give you a bit

of context for where we're going, a lot of these questions do explore, you know, how to navigate

those conflicting needs. As you may be aware, it can be challenging for an anxious and avoidant

person to be in relationship with one another,

notwithstanding that that is actually pretty common as a pairing.

So I think that this will be useful for a lot of people in understanding how to navigate

those differences and how to better understand one another.

So with all of that being said, the first question is,

what is the best way to communicate to your avoidant boyfriend without blaming?

And I think that this question, you know, there's some wisdom in it

and there's some self-awareness in it. And I suspect

that comes from experience being that blaming is not well received with avoidant people. And

anything that even has the slightest hint of feeling like blaming is not going to be very well

received. So to contextualize this,

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