Co-Dependency, acting drunk when you're sober, and the conclusion of the tale of two Bryan's.

My name is Andrea, and this is adult child. What's making you making you slow now?

Welcome to let it all go.

Welcome back to adult child, where we take a deep dive into the impact of growing up in a dysfunctional family.

And today we are diving deep into co-dependency, and y'all are in for a real damn treat for two reasons.

One you are going to get to hear the rest of the Brian number 2 story and later on in the episode I am speaking with

Nina Renata Aaron the badass bitch and author of Good Morning Destroyer of Men's Souls, a memoir of Women, Addiction, and Love.

I mean, how can she not be a badass bitch with a title like that. Now codependency is a term

commonly thrown around these days but what exactly does it mean? For the purpose of

our discussion here codependency means that we constantly look outside ourselves

for love, affirmation, and attention from people who cannot provide it. and at the same time we believe we are not

we are not truly worthy of that love we so desperately seek.

And this is all driven by fear and distorted thinking that

resulted from our dysfunctional childhoods. We choose people who can and will abandon us and lack clarity in their own lives because it matches our childhood experiences.

I know that is a tough pill to swallow how uplifting but remember as I keep emphasizing

awareness is always the first step to change so now to finish the tale of two Bryan's

and if you haven't listened to the first episode,

I highly recommend you go listen to that

before continuing to listen to this episode.

But for those who did listen, let's briefly recap where we left off.

So we had Brian number one and the realization that my dating issues were a result of my unresolved childhood pain and the realization that I was an adult child.

I read that book, I took a year off from dating,

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