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It's difficult especially as they get older. I've really struggled lately with trying to figure out if I've tried to make my kids lives like I never tried to make their lives easy, but of course as our kids are growing up we do things for

them and stately I'm just like don't do tell myself do not do anything for

them Parker at age five included that they can do themselves. If they're capable of doing it themselves,

let them do it.

You know when they're like carrying something heavy

or it's taking forever?

It's like, let me just do it for you.

It's like, no, no, slow down. Let them do it because hard is good and I keep telling myself lately and also we're in the preteen stage so some of it I know can just be the age you can just be growing in

hard things so it's hard to decipher if I doing something wrong that I need to

adjust or sometimes is it just the stage and you just kind of need to sit back and

take that what it is I'm really it's just it's very difficult to know but I've shifted my strategy to be more like I want my kids to be happy and feel loved, but I would have said like I want my kids to be like have a happy life and an easy life, you know, because so many people I feel, you know, we feel so fortunate that our

kids don't, didn't grow up and have major hardship like so many people do. But now I think I want my

kids to feel loved and happy but have struggle like I want them to have

struggle and I realize I was interfering in struggle before now.

Yeah. But look some things you can some things you can, some things you can't.

And there's some things that as a parent gives you joy to do for them.

You like making their sandwich even though they can make it themselves.

You know, sometimes, you know, you want to help them do something and I think that's okay too, but I agree with what you're saying 100 percent, but like, so funny, Gabby, Gabby Reese totally called me out because I used to put Nicky's toothpaste on his toothbrush every morning.

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