Well, hello there and welcome back to the Terry Cole show. I am so psyched that you are here.

As we reach the final installment of this six-part series, I'm still immersed in writing my next book on high-functioning code dependency,

but I'm thrilled to be bringing you this last topic, one that resonates deeply with many of us. Boundaries with family.

In this episode, we're focusing on a particularly challenging aspect of boundary

setting, which is drawing boundaries with the people who raised us, or as I sometimes call them

our parental impactors, because a lot of times maybe it was a foster mom or

maybe it was an aunt or a grandmother it's really all about how the adults in our

life impacted us. Many of you might find this topic striking a chord, regardless of your age, transitioning from viewing your parents as the primary authority in your life, to seeing yourself as your own authority can be incredibly challenging. Have you ever visited your family and

suddenly felt like you're transported back in time? Like finding yourself reacting as

if you were your younger self, maybe fighting with a sibling or getting defensive with your parent.

This is a common experience. In my many years, I mean two and a half decades to be specific,

as a psychotherapist, I've observed that even though we may be adept at setting boundaries and being

self-determinate other areas of our life, exercising our boundary rights within

our family of origin can still be a significant and unique kind of struggle.

As an adult, your task is to set boundaries that suit your adult life.

Often our family of origin, especially parents, represent the final frontier in mastering boundary setting.

Why is it so hard to establish boundaries with our childhood caregivers,

especially when we're well into adulthood.

The answer lies in understanding that our parents have their own limitations and relationship to boundaries.

They're humans, just like us.

A lack of respect for your boundaries doesn't necessarily mean that they have bad intentions. They might simply be oblivious or too entrenched in their parent role to be able to see clearly.

But in today's episode, we'll explore these dynamics and I'll be providing practical

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