Hi, Steph. I am a struggling mom of two. My oldest just turned two last weekend, and the youngest is now four months old.

Ever since I gave birth, things have been chaotic. Having two kids so young means that they both need me all day long and also all night long for the little one.

I have help, a nanny, but that just shapes the peak of stress. She plays with the older one

when I'm preoccupied with the younger or cooking or laundry, etc. I'm on all day long,

talking or playing with the older, taking care of the household or the baby, and I just don't get

rest at night either. My fiancé, we're getting married tomorrow. He's the

father of both kids. And me, we are fighting all the time. I don't know how to stop the fighting

since I'm just exhausted and desperately need a break. My current state also impacts my parenting.

I'm much less patient with the kids. And I still need to protect the younger one from the older one. When the older one is frustrated, he hits the younger one or he lies on top of him or bites him. And I always need to be on guard. If I fail, then the baby cries and I tell the older one off and tell him to apologize. He doesn't comply. When that's the case, I pick up the crying baby and walk out of the room.

And then the toddler follows me desperately crying out my name. It's just a lot, but I really don't know how else to react when he mistreats the younger one.

I, of course, try to prevent it all day, but it does happen about once a day or once every other day that the toddler makes a baby cry.

Please share your advice with an exhausted mama that is desperately trying to do her best.

Right. Okay, okay, okay. So, I mean, that's the beginning. I'm sure.

Of course that there is a large amount of detail to go on from there.

So help me out.

Hit me with more.

Hit you with more.

So like pregnancy, my older, the older one of the two that I have, he is very high energy.

But as are like, and he needs a lot of stimulation. He wants to be out. He wants to move. He wants stuff to happen. He's learning quickly.

So, but, but that's a, I guess this is to be expected because that's just the way my fiance and me are. And then when the, and he got a lot of attention and he was dethroned when the younger one came along four months ago. And that was a bit difficult. And I had help. My soon to me mother-in-law, she came and she helped out for a month and a half

because I couldn't have coped. The older one was just acting out. And it's like as a mother,

when you have a newborn, your mind is always with the newborn. Like it's really hard to

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