I'm Susie. Welcome to Brain Candy Podcast episode 573.

Woo! This is Sarah. That's all. That's all.

Tated, you see we got tagged in the Mershka Hargitay, aka Agent Benson or Captain Benson on Law and Order SVU, had a cake for the 500th episode. They tagged us and I was like, what the heck? No reference to Brain Candy?

Well, to be clear, Mariska did not tag us. Right. Oh, right.

To Brainyac underneath. Was there confusion? I would think some people might be confused? Yes.

Oh, well. We should have been tagged in the phone. I'm talking about Seth Fancy. Thank you.

They're cake looked pretty good. It did. It looked really good. And so, you know, I just was like laughing at that because we were just talking about how they should have a cake.

I think that one was from October though. Oh, really? Well, yeah. Yeah, like that's for 10, like, it's for 10. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. So how's my shoes? Oh, real good. I am. Santa's workshop over here is a buzz.

I like that. Tell me. Tell me what, what that entails. Well, I've got a slide sheet. And I see that's so fun.

I, you, that is not wasted on on. You appreciate it. You're the right person for the job. You know, Monica Geller's Christmas.

This is great. You look because I, my biggest fear is for getting someone or thinking I got something. And then I didn't, for example, I sent you your presence.

Yes. But then I remembered I had ordered a book from an independent bookseller, which I love doing, but like, you know, we're spoiled by Mr. Bezos.

Yeah. And so they take a lot longer from independent sometimes. So that'll be coming separately. But if I didn't have the spreadsheet, I might forget.

Yeah, that's really impressive. And really the right way to do it. And, um, you're, you're so kind to be giving to others, because I have been basically a grinch and a scrooge.

And I have been giving, giving, giving to yours truly. You know what? That's fun too. Yeah. I went a little nuts nut. So black, black for it. Yes. Oh my god. I'm forgetting words. All of a sudden. What's wrong with my brain?

You did that though, because you were like Marie condoing because you're moving. Well, I'm Marie condoing, but also I need the Marie condo. Some of the like stuff that's like way past its prime and realize that I'm not.

This is the thing. This is kind of in line with what I mentioned, like hinted at maybe like two episodes or so ago about how like I have this theory, like after talking to some friends about.

Like, there's like a, and I don't know if it's only that I'm only seeing this in women, but I don't see it as much a man or maybe it's just who I'm talking to and like sample sample size problem.

It's this like struggling for the sake of struggling. Like I don't, and it's almost like kind of goes in line with I don't feel deserving of this.

But also there's like a badge of honor for not having to need. Like your low maintenance kind of. Yeah. Like that of.

And you know, I was talking to a friend. We were talking about how we both were raised by single moms and single moms who are very like I got it. Like yes.

Self sufficient. Self sufficient. And they did not they there. There was never another man and like never a stepdad that came in. Never like for both of us. There's never.

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