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On your host, Trish Blackwell, internationally recognized confidence coach, best-selling author, and founder of the College of Confidence, the most encouraging place on the internet.

I teach go getters in life, how to take their thoughts captive, how to step out of the shadows of self-doubt, and how to courageously step into their purpose with confidence.

It's time to pump our confidence muscles and train our thoughts y'all. Let's get started.

Hey guys, it's Trish Blackwell and you're listening to The Confidence Podcast.

This episode, number 567, today it's a great simple approach to know what you want in life because here's the reality.

So often we don't know what we want. We think we do, but often we are just regurgitating and reliving that which has been passed down to us.

That what culture tells us, the environment in which we were raised, the expectations, what our family thinks is prestigious or not, and we are a product of our environment for better or for worse.

And so we're going to do something new today. We're going to just get curious because curiosity leads to good questions.

And the quality of your life is really determined by the quality of the questions that you're willing to ask yourself, that you're willing to wrestle with, that you're willing to find answers to.

And that's why in my coaching, I teach to get curious in order to get clarity because when we get clarity about what we want and very clear about what we don't want, then you can design your life on purpose.

And then when you have clarity, you can think and show up with precision and with consistency. And when you know what you want and you know that consistency is the way to get there, then you won't lose motivation.

You aren't going to give up. You will keep going. And when you are a person who keeps doing what they say they're going to do, you will see results.

When you see results, it's really hard not to be confident. And the whole way, the more clear you are, the more confident you will be in your capability and in your ability to shape your future. So it seems like a simple question. How do you know what you want?

And it's way more complex. I spend sometimes months working with people in my one-on-one practice on how to figure this out. So please don't beat yourself up. Please be patient. Please know that it's a process and also it's okay for your desires to change.

It's okay for your dream job to no longer be your dream job to see that underneath behind the door, it was different than you thought to have a change of heart.

But what's not okay is to just settle and believe your stuck to say, well, I'm in my mid-40s. I guess this is what it is. Or hey, I'm in my 20s and I don't know my route.

I don't know the next steps to get. And it doesn't matter how old you are, how young you are. It is never too late. You are never too far behind. And you never have to take the traditional path. There are so many approaches.

You stop focusing on all the reasons you can't do what you dream of doing and start asking your brain instead to find ways to figure out what you can do and what you want to do.

So that is what we're talking about today. Today we're talking about reverse inspiration. This is a term I have created in my coaching practice. And we're going to go into depth today about it. But in short, it really just means knowing what you want being inspired by first knowing what you don't want.

So to let your bad experiences, the jobs that were toxic, the people's lives that you see that you go, do I want that? Do I want an 80 hour work week?

Yeah, sure, they might make this amazing income and have a lot of prestige. But do I want the behind the scenes? Like when you can be inspired and impressed by others.

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