56: Encore: My Child is Turning Into a Teenager. How Do I Handle It?

Ask Lisa: The Psychology of Parenting

Dr. Lisa Damour/Good Trouble Productions

Kids & Family, Mental Health, Parenting, Health & Fitness

4.8 • 720 Ratings

🗓️ 16 November 2021

⏱️ 28 minutes

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Summary

Managing the teenage years can be overwhelming. Dr. Lisa explains what the toughest year is for teens and why. When kids hit thirteen they often become highly emotional. What happens in the brain and the body during this time? Dr. Lisa discusses the process of "separation-individuation" where young people seek to define their own identities - often by being hard on their folks. Parents sometimes assume that age thirteen is the beginning of adolescence. But is it really? And how can you help a tween or teen who's having an emotional meltdown? Dr. Lisa has good news: the intensity of early adolescence doesn’t last forever and there are effective things parents can do to manage bumpy moments with their teen. More resources: BOOK 14 Talks by Age 14: The Essential Conversations You Need to Have with Your Kids Before They Start High School By Michelle Icard Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and LinkedIn @AskLisaPodcast, @LDamour, @ReenaNinan Additional resources: https://www.drlisadamour.com/ Ask Lisa is produced by: Www.GoodTroubleProductions.com See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

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0:00.0	This is Ask Lisa, a podcast to help people understand the psychology of parenting.
0:10.0	Psychologist Dr. Lisa DeMore, author of two New York Times best-selling parenting books, takes your questions.
0:17.0	And I'm co-host, Rina Ninan, a journalist and mom of two.
0:21.4	Some of what we talk about comes from raising children ourselves.
0:24.9	Most of the time, I'll be getting answers to your parenting questions.
0:28.8	So send your questions to Ask Lisa at Dr.Lisademore.com.
0:33.7	We've gotten so many letters from all of you talking about how hard it is to raise teenagers.
0:38.3	So for this week, we decided to present an encore episode from season one.
0:43.3	My child is turning into a teenager. How do I handle it?
0:50.3	I feel like everyone is so irritable.
0:53.3	I know we're at various phases of this pandemic, but I'm at the incredibly irritable phase.
0:59.0	And I feel like we all are in my household at this point.
1:02.5	You know, the phrase I have seen over and over again on social media and places is that sense of hitting a wall.
1:08.9	Yeah.
1:09.3	The people are just like, come on.
1:12.9	Is this still going on?
1:15.4	I mean, I'm doing the chocolate, like you say,
1:17.5	something before to in the afternoon,
1:19.4	as you recommended.
1:20.6	Planned a vacation might get canceled if we're not vaccinated in the summer.
1:25.7	But, you know, it makes me feel almost like right when I was becoming a teenager, just cranky,
1:31.7	and I'm like, at 41, am I like regressing here?
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