You're listening to the Confidence Podcast. Your favorite coaching podcast oozes in with motivation, inspiration, and confidence to help you boldly take action on your dreams.

On your host, Trish Blackwell, internationally recognized Confidence Coach, best-selling author and founder of the College of Confidence, the most encouraging place on the Internet.

I teach go-getters in life how to take their thoughts captive, how to step out of the shadows of self-doubt, and how to courageously step into their purpose with confidence.

It's time to pump our confidence muscles and train our thoughts y'all. Let's get started.

Hey guys, it's Trish Blackwell, and you're listening to the Confidence Podcast. We're in episode 559, cheerleading and nurturing self-love.

And before you think I don't need this, like those of you who are tough on yourself and you want to keep being tough on yourself, I invite you to open your part 2.

Just the concept that being kind to yourself is actually going to accelerate your results in life, make life more enjoyable, and scale up your confidence.

And remember, when you have confidence, the world opens to you. People are drawn to you, opportunities become a parent that weren't there before, confidence gives you that it factor, it is everything.

And when you learn how to be a person who can generate self-love and live in a place of self-kindness and have the core of you on the inside be kind, you will see and feel the difference in your confidence as it scales.

And I think so often I work with and specialize in working with highly driven, motivated people who we know we've got this burning potential inside of us, right?

You've got that drive, whether you're a competitive athlete, you're driven in academics, you want to climb the corporate ladder, you want to be the best there is a desire within you to be in the 1%.

And I want you to know the fact that you're listening to a show like this means you are made for the 1%.

The thing is to be in the 1%, you have to be willing to do what 99% of people are unwilling to do, which is where we start going, it's good.

But if you're wired like me, you start going a little crazy, you start over pushing yourself, you start overworking, you start overpressuring.

And if you resonate with that and you haven't yet listened to last week's episode, obsessed with overworking, that's an episode, it's episode 558 that really dives into striving and putting pressure on yourself.

But today it's the opposite, I want to talk about self-love, because self-love is the ability to have unconditional positive regard towards oneself.

No matter your personal story, the things you've gone through, where you stumbled in the past or your current level of self-esteem, everyone can strengthen their foundation of self-love.

A solid concept of self-love creates the base of confidence, self-trust, and the ability to achieve anything you set your mind to.

So I used to struggle with this, because I thought if I didn't put pressure on myself, if I was loving towards myself, then I would stop caring, and it wouldn't be as driven.

I don't know why there was a disconnect, but really what I learned was the more I learned to love myself, to speak highly of myself to myself, to self-validate, to self-affirm, to self-encourage, what I did is I built a sense of self-trust.

I now trust that when I set a goal, I always have my back. And when the goal doesn't go my way, when I walk through disappointment, when I walk through discouragement, when I feel disillusioned, and I have these deep emotional feelings, I stay with myself.

I don't abandon ship and say, well, what were you thinking? I don't do that. I don't separate and feel disconnected from my goals. I feel like I am my, I'm in the, I'm in the pit with myself, walking myself through the goals and saying, we've got this girl, we don't give up.

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