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Vibrant Happy Women

55: The Art of Forgiveness and Choosing Happiness (Megan Tenney)

Vibrant Happy Women

Jen Riday

Self-improvement, Mental Health, Health & Fitness, Education

4.8671 Ratings

🗓️ 27 March 2017

⏱️ 44 minutes

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Summary

Megan Tenney shares her experience with forgiveness, choosing to be happy, and taking quality time for what's important, including a bath with a boot, vacation, and playing with her kids.

Megan Tenney is the author/owner of ShapingUpToBeAMom.com, where the goal is, "Life, easier. You, happier!" Her mission is to help other busy moms achieve their goals, while sharing her own adventures in parenting, fitness, travel, and checking off her bucket list. Born and raised on the shores of Maine, she relocated after college to the Arizona desert, where she now lives with her husband and four kids: Carter, Vanessa, Harrison, and Melody...

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Nuggets of Wisdom from Megan:

"Just remember, this too shall pass away."

"I needed to learn how to forgive someone. That is why I had to go through those experiences."

"Your happiness is your own responsibility. You cannot depend on someone else to make you happy."

"Be easy on yourself. Don't jump right to feeling guilty for having negative thoughts toward someone. I think, to a certain extent, we can have power over our own feelings, and to a certain extent we cannot. And I think feelings might just come to you, like you get angry or you feel guilty, but then, you can fan the flames of that feeling or you can redirect your thoughts and try to focus on something else. It takes effort and it takes humility."

"One of the questions you [Jen] ask, the one that left the most lasting impact on me, was, 'At the end of your life, when you turn around and look back, what do you want to have done, or what do you want people to remember you for?' That made it so clear to me. Family. That is my absolute first priority."

Some of Megan's Favorite Things:

Personal habit: "It has contributed to my sanity. I take a bath almost everyday. I just relax in the bathtub with a book and I do it almost everyday."

Easy meal: "Crockpot meal. So I make a pasta meal with a jar of marinara sauce. I used maybe four fifths of the marinara sauce. And another night, I do English muffin pizzas, and I use the leftover sauce."

Possession: "Crockpot. Vitamix."

Megan's Favorite Books: "'The Life Changing Magic of Tidying Up,' by Marie Kondo, and 'Learn the Secrets to Daily Joy and Lasting Fulfillment,'
by Tal Ben-Shahar."

"There are people that only focus on the present, and they do whatever it takes to make them feel good right now. Whether that's a bacon cheese burger, or sitting and watching TV, or whatever it is, and they don't plan for the future, and so they don't plan to be happier in the future. And then there are people that only plan for the future, and they deprive themselves of the moment. They eat only salads, or they work really hard and never take a vacation, and it's all for someday down the road. He [Tal Ben-Shahar] said that the happiest formula is to try to get both of those things, to do, ideally, one thing that will benefit you now and will benefit you later."

Best advice received: "Treat others the way you want to be treated."

Megan's Happiness Formula:

"I am happiest when I am being productive, planning a trip, and ending the day with a bath and a good book."

A Challenge from Megan:

"Plan a trip. It doesn't have to be Disney World. You don't have to get on a plane. It could be to the other end of town, to a restaurant you have never been to before."

Resources

ShapingUpToBeAMom.com

My Konmari Closet (or Who Bought All These Clothes) 

Vibrant Happy Women Facebook Group

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Transcript

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0:00.0

You're listening to the Vibrant Happy Women Podcast, episode number 55.

0:04.9

I'm supposed to be forgiving.

0:07.6

And on the other hand, I don't feel like I can.

0:10.6

Like, I feel like it's beyond my control.

0:14.5

Welcome to the Vibrant Happy Women Podcast, stories of vibrant women living happy lives. And now your host, Jen Rideh.

0:27.7

Hey there, Jen here. And welcome back to Vibrant Happy Women. I'm so glad you're here.

0:34.7

On our last two episodes, I shared my story of hitting an emotional rock

0:38.2

bottom after a miscarriage and feeling really resentful and empty because I had given everything

0:44.3

for helping my family and forgotten to take any time for myself. And I shared how I was able to

0:50.0

start scheduling more time for myself, like yoga and walks and time in nature and book club and how

0:55.6

that really helped. Well, if you want to take things to the next level, my program Time Mastery

1:01.5

for Women is open this week until Thursday, 1159 p.m. Central Time Mastery for Women is the

1:09.9

complete A to Z system for creating time to pursue your passions,

1:14.7

live your purpose, and leave a legacy. So as moms, we don't often think about leaving a legacy,

1:21.4

but let me help you understand what that means. So imagine you're at the end of your life,

1:25.7

you're on a mountain, looking back at the path you've come throughout your life and you see your loved ones, maybe your spouse the end of your life. You're on a mountain looking back at the path you've come

1:28.4

throughout your life and you see your loved ones, maybe your spouse and kids, your siblings,

1:33.0

your friends, your coworkers, whoever those loved ones are. Ask yourself this. What would they

1:38.9

remember you for right now if, you know, your life ended this week. What would they remember you for?

1:45.3

After I hit my rock bottom, I knew my kids would remember me as empty and tired and grumpy and impatient. And thinking

1:52.3

about my legacy, I didn't want that to be my legacy. I didn't want that to be the full picture of my life.

1:58.6

What a tragic thing, right? So I vowed I was going to teach my kids

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