547: How to Limit Time With the Wrong People, with Carey Nieuwhof

Coaching for Leaders

Dave Stachowiak

Education, Business, Management, Self-improvement, Careers

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🗓️ 27 September 2021

⏱️ 39 minutes

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Summary

Carey Nieuwhof: At Your Best Carey Nieuwhof is a former lawyer, a bestselling leadership author, a podcaster, and the CEO of Carey Nieuwhof Communications. He speaks to leaders around the world about leadership, change, and personal growth. He writes a widely read leadership blog at CareyNieuwhof.com and also hosts the top-rated Carey Nieuwhof Leadership podcast. He’s the author of At Your Best: How to Get Time, Energy, and Priorities Working in Your Favor*. In this conversation, Carey and I explore the reality that so many of us face in both our personal and professional lives: spending time with the wrong kind of people. We discuss how to notice we’re not helping, how to limit time, and what to do when a conversation needs to happen. Plus, we make the invitation to proactively do what often gets missed: spending time with the right people more consistently. Key Points The people who want your time are rarely the people who should have your time. Many leaders give too much time and attention away to people who aren’t helped by the interaction. Having a frank conversation with a person who you’re not helping is usually good for both of you. If you’re not able to limit interactions with the wrong kind of person, line up those interactions outside of your key energy times. A key way to do better at limiting time with the wrong people is to affirmatively decide to spend time with the right people. Resources Mentioned Burnout Quiz At Your Best Today At Your Best: How to Get Time, Energy, and Priorities Working in Your Favor* by Carey Nieuwhof Interview Notes Download my interview notes in PDF format (free membership required). Related Episodes How to Make Deep Work Happen, with Cal Newport (episode 233) The Scientific Secrets of Daily Scheduling, with Daniel Pink (episode 332) How to Prepare for Conflict, with Amy Gallo (episode 530) Discover More Activate your free membership for full access to the entire library of interviews since 2011, searchable by topic.

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0:00.0	Every single one of us has that person that when we see an email from them or their name
0:06.7	on caller ID, we start to cringe a bit.
0:10.2	All of us need to interact with people that don't bring us joy.
0:13.7	But how do we keep those relationships from crowding out what's most important?
0:19.6	On this episode, how to limit time with the wrong people.
0:23.8	This is Coaching for Leaders, episode 547.
0:28.1	Produced by Innovate Learning, Maximizing Human Potential.
0:37.1	Greetings to you from Orange County, California.
0:39.9	This is Coaching for Leaders, and I'm your host, Dave Stahovak.
0:44.6	Leaders aren't born, they're made.
0:47.2	In this weekly show, helps you discover leadership wisdom through insightful conversations.
0:53.2	Of course, so much about leadership is about our relationships with others.
0:57.7	How do we spend time and invest in the right situations and in the right people?
1:02.7	And also, there's that aspect of leadership of how do we limit time
1:07.2	with the wrong people and the wrong relationships?
1:10.5	And it's so much complexity that we all have to deal with in that daily balance.
1:16.2	Today, I'm so glad to be able to share a conversation with you on someone who's
1:21.4	just such an expert in this area is going to help us to take some practical steps forward.
1:25.8	I'm so pleased to introduce Carrie Newhoff to you.
1:28.5	He is a former lawyer, a best-selling leadership author, a podcaster,
1:32.7	and also the CEO of his own organization.
1:35.8	Carrie speaks to leaders around the world about leadership, change, and personal growth.
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