538. When Good Women Stop Being Nice with Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife
Better Than Happy
Jody Moore
4.8 • 5.6K Ratings
🗓️ 7 November 2025
⏱️ 53 minutes
🧾️ Download transcript
Summary
Many of us learned early on that being good meant following the rules, keeping everyone happy, and never causing discomfort. So maybe you find yourself saying yes when really, you mean no. Perhaps you agree to host the family gathering, even when you're already overwhelmed, or give in to your teenager's demands because you can't stand their anger.
This week, I'm joined by Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife to explore the crucial difference between compliance and true goodness. As an LDS relationship and sexuality coach with a PhD in counseling psychology, Jennifer brings unique insight into how religious communities can inadvertently teach us to abandon ourselves in the name of belonging, and she's here today to illuminate exactly how we mistake being good for being compliant.
Join us today as Jennifer shares practical wisdom about the difference between being kind and being compliant, why prioritizing other people's comfort over your own integrity is actually harmful, and how to recognize when your resentments are telling you something important. This episode is your roadmap for moving from people-pleasing to authentic living while still maintaining meaningful relationships.
Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://jodymoore.com/538
Transcript
Click on a timestamp to play from that location
| 0:00.0 | Some of the most downloaded episodes of this podcast by far are the handful of episodes where we have been lucky enough to have Dr. Jennifer Finlayson Fife. And I decided it's been far too long since we've heard from her. And luckily she was gracious enough to agree to come back on the show. Today, we're talking about what happens when good women stop being nice. |
| 0:23.7 | Why nice is overrated and actually not living in our highest integrity most of the time. |
| 0:30.0 | We talk about a bunch of other subjects as well, but before I introduce you to her, |
| 0:34.7 | I want to speak to anybody who's tired of feeling busy and overwhelmed, |
| 0:38.3 | like you're working hard, and yet you're not getting everything done. You can't possibly |
| 0:44.5 | accomplish enough to feel like you're doing all the things you want or need to, and or maybe you're |
| 0:51.0 | procrastinating and avoiding some things that you want to get done, |
| 0:56.1 | and you can't figure out how to get yourself moving. |
| 0:59.4 | I am going to be teaching better than busy in January. |
| 1:05.1 | We're enrolling for it now, and it's a five-day challenge at a no-brainer $49 price point. |
| 1:08.6 | Not only will you get the five-day virtual live challenge with me, |
| 1:11.1 | but you will also get my exclusive planner, which alone is worth the cost of the program. We will send it right to your doorstep. It's gorgeous, |
| 1:16.3 | and it has a system that works specifically with your brain. I create it every year, and every |
| 1:23.3 | year, everybody asks me how they can get the new one for the next year because it works that well. |
| 1:28.9 | And you cannot buy this planner. The only way to get it is to join me at Better Than Busy. |
| 1:33.4 | So head to Jodymore.com forward slash busy. Again, Jodymore.com forward slash busy. |
| 1:39.1 | I'd love to have you join me at Better Than Busy. Let me go ahead and introduce you to Dr. Jennifer |
| 1:43.4 | Finlayson- Fife in case you |
| 1:44.6 | haven't heard of her. She is an LDS relationship and sexuality coach with a PhD in counseling |
| 1:49.2 | psychology. She is the author of that we might have joy, desire, divinity, and intimate love, |
| 1:56.1 | which is a phenomenal book, by the way. We talk a little bit about that on this episode. She's also |
| 2:00.8 | the creator of six online courses that help individuals and couples create happier lives phenomenal book, by the way. We talk a little bit about that on this episode. She's also the |
... |
Please login to see the full transcript.
Disclaimer: The podcast and artwork embedded on this page are from Jody Moore, and are the property of its owner and not affiliated with or endorsed by Tapesearch.
Generated transcripts are the property of Jody Moore and are distributed freely under the Fair Use doctrine. Transcripts generated by Tapesearch are not guaranteed to be accurate.
Copyright © Tapesearch 2025.