532: The Shadow Cycle

Brave Love Great Sex – Couples Therapy Podcast

Cloud10

Sexuality, Health & Fitness, Mental Health

4.6 • 2K Ratings

🗓️ 20 February 2026

⏱️ 29 minutes

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Summary

In today's episode we are exploring the shadow cycle; how our partner's experience often mirrors ours in a different cycle. Join hosts Laurie and George as they walk listeners through the five steps to explore and understand the shadow cycle. This key exercise can help bring awareness to each partner's perspective, slow down the negative cycles and use curiosity rather than defensiveness. If you and your partner keep getting stuck, make sure to listen and share to learn how to tap into each other's worlds through a different and healthier lens. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	The following content is not suitable for children.
0:02.6	Hey, George. How do we use the shadow cycle to deepen our intimacy?
0:08.6	Right? If we're stuck sexually or emotionally with our partner, how do we use those feelings to understand where our partner is stuck?
0:19.8	Shadow cycles.
0:21.4	Ooh.
0:22.0	Ooh.
0:23.3	Welcome to the Brave Love Great Sex Podcast.
0:26.5	I'm Dr. Lori Watson, licensed couple and certified sex therapist.
0:30.4	And I'm George Fowler, couples therapist, EFT trainer, and retired New York City firefighter.
0:36.0	In every relationship, love requires bravery,
0:39.3	especially to turn towards each other when there is a lot of fighting and defensiveness.
0:44.7	We want to help you stay present with each other sexually as well. Both emotional connection
0:49.8	and erotic intimacy are the bedrock of couple security. Brave love, great sex is where we help you reconnect, repair, and reignite desire to help create the secure, lasting love we all deserve.
1:03.5	Find our book by the same name. Brave love, great sex.
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1:16.2	You'll be able to find us. In fact, we're going to post a link very soon once we have our book
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1:43.4	have adult kids.
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