#532 – Letting Go of the “I’m Fine” Lie
The Sister Circle Podcast
Chrystal Evans Hurst
4.9 • 1.3K Ratings
🗓️ 28 July 2025
⏱️ 31 minutes
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Summary
Are you tired of acting like you have it all together? What would happen if you took off the mask and got honest about everything weighing you down?
In this episode, I’m opening up about the struggle to be honest with God, yourself, and the safe people in your life. Acting like everything is fine can only work for so long. Eventually, you’re going to need to lean on someone else. Get ready for a heart-to-heart conversation about authenticity and vulnerability.
Highlights from Today’s Episode
- Developing safe spaces
- Having compassion for others
- Choosing an honest response
Related Resources
- Listen to this podcast episode about the power of listening to your body.
- Feel like the weight of the world is resting on your shoulders? This podcast episode is your reminder that you can’t carry it all.
- Need encouragement for processing your feelings? My Write It Down video is a great place to start.
- Pick up my book, She’s Still There, and rediscover who you are behind the mask.
Transcript
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| 0:00.0 | Hi there. Thanks for listening to the Sister Circle podcast. My name is Crystal Evanshurst, |
| 0:09.6 | and I'm your host. Thanks for tuning in to another episode of the podcast that's designed to help you |
| 0:15.8 | live your life well and to make it a life you love. Listen, you get to choose. |
| 0:29.2 | How often do you say I'm fine when you really are not? What was the last time you allowed yourself to not be the strong one? And what would |
| 0:40.2 | it cost you? Or what would it save you to tell the truth about what you need? Listen, now, if you are a |
| 0:47.7 | woman when someone says, how are you doing and you say, I'm fine, are you telling yourself and |
| 0:53.3 | others the I'm fine lie? Because y'all, |
| 0:55.9 | we be saying I'm fine and lying through our teeth. So let's talk about that lie today. |
| 1:02.3 | If you are a woman who will answer with a curt, courteous, polite, I'm fine when someone |
| 1:08.7 | says, how are you doing? I want to talk to you today. I understand |
| 1:12.8 | that everybody asked that question and that often people ask, how are you doing to be polite? |
| 1:17.8 | But there are places and spaces where people will ask us that question and we bold-faced |
| 1:22.9 | lie about it. Maybe one, because we don't feel safe enough to answer truthfully. Number two, |
| 1:28.2 | maybe we don't feel like the person asking really wants to know. Number three is what good would it do for me to rehash or |
| 1:34.1 | reshare or conjure up what actually is going on in my life? Is it productive? Is it profitable? Does it move |
| 1:40.2 | the needle? But what we end up doing when people ask us, are we doing okay and we say fine, |
| 1:46.2 | especially in places or spaces where we probably should say a little bit more is we are paying |
| 1:51.5 | the cost of vulnerability, authenticity, and community. You and I were not designed to live alone. |
| 1:57.9 | And it doesn't matter how much we tell ourselves the story of how |
| 2:02.7 | strong we are or how much we can do on our own or how independent and how able we are to move |
| 2:09.6 | the needle or how we move the needle in the past. All of those things have no bearing on what is |
| 2:15.6 | true. If someone says, are you doing okay? Or they say, |
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