The last like big devastating breakup that I had a few years ago, it's so funny because, you know, when I look back through my journals of that time, of course, there are so many questions I wanted to ask him and I really struggled with, should I keep trying to talk to him?

Should I keep trying to sit down with him and have conversations?

And that I realized if I sit down with him and have conversations, and that I realized, if I sit down with him and have another conversation,

unless his answer was like, I was totally stupid and wrong and you were right,

and I want to fix things, like there's literally nothing he can say.

There's no answer that he can give that will give me what I'm actually seeking,

which is just to feel better about this and to find a way to

move on. So for me, that's how I came to the conclusion, like, no, I should not reach out to this

person and keep trying to talk because I think that I want to ask a bunch of questions, but I

really don't actually want to or actually want to get those answers.

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