525 - Your Metamour is Not the Villain with Alex Alberto

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4.9 • 935 Ratings

🗓️ 15 April 2025

⏱️ 62 minutes

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Today we're talking about metamour relationships with Alex Alberto. Alex is a queer author, publisher, and filmmaker. Last year, Alex published their memoir, “Entwined: Essays on Polyamory and Creating Home” through Quilted Press, a collective of independent authors they co-founded. This year, Alex is producing a short film called “Coming Out Polyamorous for Thanksgiving,” which is based on an essay from Entwined. Alex also leads writers' retreats and courses at Scrappy Literary, and some of their classes focus on helping writers of all levels write about non-monogamy and unconventional relationships. Alex is originally from Montreal but lives in Upstate New York with their partner, metamour, and kids. Join our amazing community of listeners at multiamory.supercast.com. We offer sliding scale subscriptions so everyone can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, and our amazing Discord community. Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack. Our theme music is Forms I Know I Did by Josh and Anand. Follow us on Instagram @Multiamory_Podcast and visit our website Multiamory.com. The Seattle Erotic Art Festival is May 2, 3, &4. Get 10% off select festival passes at seaf.art/tickets! We are a proud member of the Pleasure Podcasts network. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	I'm glad you talked about meeting your metamore because that's also a thing.
0:06.0	It's like I want to be flexible with all different, you know, desires and types of polyamory.
0:10.0	But for me, it also, I've had that experience several times also.
0:14.0	Like you, I would describe it as like the person is the shape of a villain,
0:18.0	kind of like a shadow that is undefined, and then I project all of my
0:22.8	worst insecurities onto them.
0:25.1	And once you meet them, even if you don't, you know, hit it off and become best friends,
0:30.3	they do become a full human, like you said.
0:32.9	And often my experience was, oh, they're all so nervous to meet me, or I can see their sort of like vulnerabilities and then you can have at least some compassion for them too.
0:44.5	It doesn't necessarily remove all of those feelings right away, but it just really helps to work on them.
0:52.2	Welcome to the Multiiamery Podcast.
0:55.1	I'm Jace.
0:56.1	I'm Emily.
0:57.3	And I'm Dedeker.
0:58.5	We believe in looking to the future of relationships, not maintaining the status quo of the past.
1:04.7	Whether you're monogamous, polyamorous, swinging, casually dating, or if you just do
1:10.1	relationships differently, we see you, and we're here for you.
1:14.8	Fongs, I know I did, forcing me to form myself to fit. On this episode of the Multiamary podcast, we're talking all about metamor
1:33.3	relationships with polyamorous, storyteller, and author Alex Alberto.
1:38.3	Alex is a queer author, publisher, and filmmaker.
1:41.3	Last year, Alex published their memoir, Entwined, Essays on Polyamory and Creating Home,
1:47.3	through Quilted Press, a collective of independent authors that they co-founded. This year,
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