That's a kid who's able to be self-discipline because they've practiced it and they've built a brain that is more self-discipline.

That's about resilience as well.

Hello and welcome. I'm Shane Parrish and this is another episode of the Knowledge Project,

a podcast exploring the ideas, methods and mental models that will help you learn from the best of what other people have already figured out.

You can learn more and stay up to date at fs.blog slash podcast.

On the show today is Dr. Laura Markham, who runs remarkable parenting blogger,

frequent called AHA Parenting.

Well, I expected the lessons of this conversation to apply to parenting my eight-nine-year-old boys.

I was surprised how much water took away from this conversation resonated with me outside of parenting.

For example, Laura teaches us all about self-regulation and how to not only notice what we're feeling, but label it and react in a constructive way.

It's time to listen and learn.

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Laura, I'm so happy to have you.

I'm so glad to be here with you, Tigger.

I think we've all raised our voice and bribed our kids sometimes.

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