516: How to Find Helpful Advisors, with Ethan Kross

Coaching for Leaders

Dave Stachowiak

Education, Business, Management, Self-improvement, Careers

4.8 • 1.6K Ratings

🗓️ 8 March 2021

⏱️ 38 minutes

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Summary

Ethan Kross: Chatter Ethan Kross is one of the world’s leading experts on controlling the conscious mind. As an award-winning professor in the University of Michigan’s top-ranked Psychology Department and its Ross School of Business, he studies how the conversations people have with themselves impact their health, performance, decisions, and relationships. His research has been published in Science, The New England Journal of Medicine, and The Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences. He's been featured by Good Morning America, NPR’s Morning Edition, The New York Times, The Wall Street Journal, Harvard Business Review, and many other publications. He's the author of Chatter: The Voice in Our Head, Why It Matters, and How to Harness It*. In this conversation, Ethan and I highlight how introspection can sometimes do more harm than good. Ethan invites us to form a board of advisors that support us with both our emotional and cognitive needs. Plus, he shares the science behind how we can do this effectively for others. Key Points Simply sharing our emotions with others doesn’t help us to recover in any meaningful way. When seeking out advisors, we should find those who support both our emotional needs as well as our cognitive ones. You want a blend of both Captain Kirk and Mr. Spock. 🖖 Reflect on past conversations with advisors and determine if that previously helped you move forward with a challenging situation. That’s a key indicator to determine if they are people you want to keep engaging. Seek out different advisors for different things. A key distinction in supporting others is whether they have specifically sought out of advice or not. If not, being helpful people through invisible means is often useful. Resources Mentioned Chatter: The Voice in Our Head, Why It Matters, and How to Harness It* by Ethan Kross Interview Notes Download my interview notes in PDF format (free membership required). Related Episodes How to Know What You Don’t Know, with Art Markman (episode 437) The Way to Be More Coach-Like, with Michael Bungay Stanier (episode 458) Leadership Lies We Tell Ourselves, with Emily Leathers (episode 479) Making the Most of Mentoring (free membership required) Discover More Activate your free membership for full access to the entire library of interviews since 2011, searchable by topic.

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0:00.0	When we're struggling with something, our tendency is to reach out to someone who can show us empathy.
0:06.0	That's a good start for support, but it's insufficient.
0:10.0	On this episode, the science behind finding helpful advisors.
0:14.0	This is Coaching for Leaders, Episode 516.
0:19.0	Produced by Innovate Learning, Maximizing Human Potential.
0:25.0	Greetings to you from Orange County, California.
0:31.0	This is Coaching for Leaders, and I'm your host, Dave Stahoviac.
0:36.0	Leaders aren't born, they're made.
0:38.0	And this weekly show helps you discover leadership wisdom through insightful conversations.
0:44.0	One of the pieces of advice that many of us have heard is the importance of seeking out mentors, seeking out advisors.
0:53.0	Seeking out those who will help us to work through tough situations, both professionally and personally.
0:59.0	And that news isn't news to anyone, but what may be news is that that doesn't always work the way that we wanted to.
1:07.0	How can we really get useful direction and advice from advisors that doesn't just make us feel good, but also is actually going to help us move forward?
1:19.0	Today's guest is an expert on this is going to help us to really take the next steps to benefit as much as possible from the advisors in our life.
1:28.0	I'm so thrilled to welcome Ethan Cross to the show today.
1:31.0	He's one of the world's leading experts on controlling the conscious mind.
1:35.0	He's an award-winning professor at the University of Michigan's top-ranked psychology department and its Ross School of Business, where he studies how the conversations people have with themselves.
1:45.0	His research has been featured in science, the New England Journal of Medicine, and the proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences.
1:55.0	He's been featured by Good Morning America, NPR's Morning Edition, The New York Times, The Wall Street Journal, Harvard Business Review, and many other publications.
2:04.0	He's the author of the new book Chatter, The Voice in Our Head, Why It Matters, and How to Harness It.
2:11.0	Ethan, I'm so glad to welcome you to the show.
2:14.0	I'm so excited to be here, Dave.
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