So this was a caller, his audio was pretty bad, but his question was he feels in great

competition with his girlfriend.

Actually, she was his girlfriend taking a hiatus.

He wants to get her back.

He felt a lot of competition with her when she would do well in her career versus his career.

And we went back and forth a little bit about the background of the relationship, but then

I told him this about how to solve competition in romantic relationships.

And I think it's well worth listening to.

Before you get married, you are in mating display mode.

Now in mating display mode, you wish to show to your prospective wife and the prospective

mother of your children, you wish to show that woman that you're really good at gathering

resources.

Now, if she's really good at gathering resources, does your value go up or down?

Down.

Right.

Once you wife her and you mother her, right, you turn her into a wife and a mother, is

there any competition about who's providing the most resources?

A few years down the line, I would hope that wouldn't be, but...

Well, when you have children, right?

Hmm.

Oh yes, it's a good one.

It's a good one.

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