Hi friends, so this week I want to talk about jealousy and not just jealousy and relationships, jealousy and friendships too

because I used to be and still am one of the most jealous motherfuckers you can find.

So first I want to deconstruct everybody's view of jealousy because everybody just writes it off like it's bad

and it's like toxic if you're jealous but we're gonna go into that shit, I'm gonna deconstruct it

and then I'm gonna give you my tips for dealing with jealousy and like I said with friendships and relationships

because when I'm in a relationship I don't want you looking at nobody but me talking to nobody but me

thinking to nobody but me and if I'm friends with you I don't want you having no other friends but me

and when I say we gotta go into it we're gonna go into it because I understand this is not like a healthy way to be

but it does not negate the way that I feel like I'm fully aware of the proper way and the healthy way of

having a relationship or having a friendship but motherfucker my feelings say otherwise

so I'm gonna break all this down and teach you how I truly deal with it because this is the shit that I could not find online when I was looking for it

and this is what's helped me the most so here we go. So the biggest thing I realized about jealousy is

you're not just jealous for no reason. It doesn't mean you're crazy and it doesn't mean you're immature and it doesn't mean you're toxic.

The way that you respond to when you feel jealous makes you toxic or not but we're gonna get into that

but the biggest thing to realize about jealousy is you're not fucking crazy for it

it's not just this feeling that comes out of nowhere what's really going on when you feel jealous is you've perceived a

threat to your connection with someone or your closeness to someone and that alone will give you a lot of

explanation to why you feel the way that you do because it does not feel good to feel jealous but it's not just

jealousy. You're perceiving a threat to your connection with someone you're perceiving a threat to your closeness

you're perceiving a threat to your security and your attachment with someone so of course you're gonna have a

fucking emotional reaction to that anyone would and anyone who says they don't is a fucking liar they might not label it as

jealousy but everybody gets that anxious and that like anger aggressive the scared the fear it's like your

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