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Multiamory: Rethinking Modern Relationships

504 - Decolonizing Love with Millie and Nick

Multiamory: Rethinking Modern Relationships

Multiamory, LLC

Sexuality, Self-improvement, Relationships, Health & Fitness, Society & Culture, Education

4.9935 Ratings

🗓️ 5 November 2024

⏱️ 60 minutes

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Summary

For today's episode, we're joined by Millie and Nick from Decolonizing Love for a spectacular conversation about polyamory, intersectionality, colonialism, hierarchy, and much, much more. Millie Boella (she/they) and Nick (he/him) are a polyamorous couple from Toronto, Canada, who have been together for 14 years. Millie, of mixed Kenyan and diverse heritage, has always embraced polyamory, influenced by her Maasai background. She founded the Toronto Non-Monogamous BIPOC group in 2017 and is a professional writer. Nick, of Italian and Greek descent, is a healthcare consultant. He works on various community causes, including projects that help men unlearn toxic masculinity. In 2021, they co-founded Decolonizing Love, advocating for polyamory through a decolonial lens. Their work aims to make polyamory accessible and intersectional. Join our amazing community of listeners at multiamory.supercast.com. We offer sliding scale subscriptions so everyone can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, and our amazing Discord community. Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack.Our theme music is Forms I Know I Did by Josh and Anand.Follow us on Instagram @Multiamory_Podcast and visit our website Multiamory.com. We are a proud member of the Pleasure Podcasts network. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0

I think one of the beauties of indigenous cultures, it's so much about just embracing

0:08.5

and not having this sort of like protesting work ethic.

0:11.2

You live to live.

0:12.7

Life is itself a beautiful gift and we're not here just to be capitalist production machines,

0:17.8

you know.

0:18.8

It's about being curious about this life, you know, and living in that curiosity and how we relate.

0:24.6

And one of the things I love about my Kikuyu tribe the most, because my Kikuyu tribe has different options of relating women.

0:31.6

You can marry yourself, you can be polygamous, you can be monogamous, and I always felt that was because the tribe cared more about you discovering who you are coming back and then telling the tribe,

0:44.3

this is who I am, and I think that's what life really should be about. It's about you not following the script, but you're just being curious about your soul's journey here in this life,

0:55.5

you know, and then moving away from these categories, you know, and words just be about poetry

1:00.4

that makes your life, right, rather than it boxing you in.

1:05.3

Welcome to the Multi-Amory Podcast. I'm Jace. I'm Emily. And I'm Dedeker. We believe in looking to the future of

1:13.5

relationships, not maintaining the status quo of the past. Whether you're monogamous, polyamorous,

1:20.4

swinging, casually dating, or if you just do relationships differently, we see you and we're here for you.

1:41.0

Fongs, I know I did, forcing me to form myself to fit.

1:47.4

On this episode of the Multi-Amory podcast, we are joined by non-monogamy content creators responsible for the decolonizing love Instagram page, Millie and Nick.

1:53.4

Millie and Nick are a polyamorous couple from Toronto, Canada, who have been together for

1:58.0

14 years.

1:59.0

Millie of mixed Kenyan and diverse heritage

2:02.0

has always embraced polyamory,

2:04.3

influenced by her Maasai background.

2:06.6

She founded the Toronto Non-Monogamy Bipak group in 2017

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