Welcome to On attachment, a place to learn about how attachment shapes the way we experience

dating, love and relationships.

I'm your host, relationship coach and attachment expert Stephanie Rigg,

and I'm really glad you're here. Hi everybody welcome back to another episode of on attachment

today's episode is all about five ways to support an anxiously attached partner. So this is a follow-up to last

week's episode which was five ways to support an avoidant partner. We received a

lot of really beautiful feedback about last week's episode and so I'm really looking forward to sharing with you today from the anxious perspective some really you know

straightforward and actionable ways that you can contribute to your partner's experience of safety if your partner is someone who tends more towards anxious attachment. So I know that a lot of people in my community are themselves anxiously attached and there's a good chance that if

you're listening to this that might be your experience and so if that is you I really

encourage you to listen nonetheless as it will likely give you some insight into you know things

that you can ask for in your relationship that might really help

with alleviating some of your more anxious thoughts and

It also might be a really nice opportunity to send this to your partner to share it with them and really invite them into your experience a little better. I think often when it's coming from a third party it's it's often easier for us to hear.

So it might be a nice way to you know share and an offer insight to your partner and you know, share and offer insight to your partner and you know maybe from there be a springboard into conversation,

greater, you know, understanding and connection.

So, without further ado, let's dive into five ways

to support an anxiously attached partner.

The first one that I want to speak to here

is to prioritize openness and transparency wherever possible.

So for the anxious person, uncertainty is a really, really big trigger.

So as soon as there's any vagueness, any uncertainty, any doubt,

the anxious person will typically fill in the blanks with a really catastrophic

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