So today we're going to be talking about five ways narcissists win when you don't let go.

So when we're talking about narcissism, it's really, really important that we all wrap our mind around this idea that

narcissism refers to a pervasive pattern in someone's life. So this is a thread that runs through someone's life.

In other words, like, you can

have a bad day. You could be passive aggressive. You could lie to someone. You could react

in anger to someone. You could withhold information at one point. None of these things are

very healthy to do. They actually

are not helpful when it comes to wanting to get along with people, wanting to communicate

fairly, and wanting to live an authentic life. But we're all human, we all have an ego,

we can all be triggered. And depending on what you've experienced in your childhood

regarding trauma is really going to come into play when we're talking about how you might respond

to an external trigger. But those of us who have the ability to feel remorse, those of us who

have the ability to feel guilty, those of us who have the ability to feel guilty,

those of us who are self-reflective, those of us who have the ability to change and want to

change, those of us who have the ability to take accountability, even if it takes this a little

while, well, you know, I shouldn't have said that, I shouldn't have done that I better go off for them apology an apology if you

have the ability to do that then you are on the healthier you are in the

healthier end of the pool there are people who lack empathy their empathy

impaired so rather than have true empathy for other people, which

means that we have the ability to think about how someone feels and how they might be feeling,

as well as feel what other people feel, as well as act on the empathy that we experience,

maybe there's been a death in our friend's family and we

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