You're listening to On attachment, a place to learn about how attachment shapes the way we experience

relationships and where you'll gain the guidance, knowledge and practical tools to

overcome insecurity and build healthy thriving relationships. I'm your host,

relationship coach Stephanie Rigg and I'm really glad you're here.

Hey everybody, welcome back to another episode of On Attachment. In today's episode we're going to be talking all about five things secure couples too well.

So oftentimes we're looking at the ways in which we might be operating in our

relationships that are getting in the way of what we want, you know, the places

where we're going wrong, the missteps. And so I think that it's really useful

and important to flip the script every so often and instead focus on what the goal is or where we should be aiming in our relationships by looking to positive examples of what

secure couples do, what the norms are in those types of relationships.

Because I think for so many of us we don't have a lot of examples of that.

I often ask people to reflect on whether they actually have positive role models in their lives around relationships,

whether they had that growing up.

And I think unfortunately, for a lot of us,

when we turn our minds to it,

we don't really have lots of examples of like,

yeah, those are people with a great relationship really healthy respectful fun connected

over the long haul so I think that when we are doing this work of trying to repaten

reprogram and understand you, where and why we might be stuck.

Looking to these aspirational examples can be really inspiring and can help us, you know, know what we're looking for and can probably also

illuminate where we might be missing the mark a little in our own relationships and

thereby cultivating more awareness around our own patterns and our own stuckness if that's what we're experiencing.

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