5-MINUTE FRIDAY: Surrendering To The Process May Not Be Easy — But It's Essential
Hurdle with Emily Abbate
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4.9 • 1.4K Ratings
🗓️ 13 March 2026
⏱️ 12 minutes
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Summary
Today I’m getting real about a lesson I’ve been learning the hard way lately: you don't always know what you need until you need it. I dive into the vulnerability of my current journey with egg freezing, the mental weight of the unknown, and why sometimes the best thing you can do is simply surrender to the process.
I also answer a listener question from Avery about a struggle many of us share—sleep anxiety. I break down my non-negotiable "3-2-1 Rule" for better rest, the physiological benefits of a cool, dark room, and exactly what I do when I find myself wide awake at 3:00 a.m.
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| 0:00.0 | This is an IHeart podcast. |
| 0:02.5 | Guaranteed human. |
| 0:20.4 | Hey, everyone. Emily Abadi here. You are listening to Five Minute Friday from Hurtle. I have been thinking so much about something that is highly frustrating for me, which is that sometimes you just don't know what you need until you need it. I am someone |
| 0:42.3 | that really tries to plan ahead. I am someone that tries to look at scenarios from all |
| 0:51.8 | angles and always have a plan B. But what I'm coming to terms with |
| 0:57.8 | a lot lately is that I'm not always going to have all of the answers. And trust me, |
| 1:03.7 | it's not like this is some brand new realization. But in the season of my life, when I'm trying to be as proactive as possible, and I recognize |
| 1:14.8 | that it is not possible a lot of the time, I just need to throw my hands up and surrender. |
| 1:22.4 | I'll talk to you about some specifics. |
| 1:25.7 | I have been open about this on social a bit. I wrote a newsletter about it today. |
| 1:29.7 | If you don't subscribe to the weekly hurdle, please go over there and check it out. The link to do that is in the show notes. |
| 1:35.6 | And it's absolutely free. If you keep up with me in either of those places, then you know I am beginning my egg freezing journey. |
| 1:46.1 | This is something that as much research as I have done, as many people that I have spoken |
| 1:52.3 | to about it, I just have so much unknown. |
| 1:57.9 | I don't know how I'm going to feel after the first day of injections, the second day |
| 2:03.1 | of injections, five days into injections. I don't know how the monitoring appointments are going to be |
| 2:08.6 | when you have to go in and get an ultrasound and get blood work drawn. I don't know what's |
| 2:13.7 | going to happen if the retrieval is successful versus unsuccessful. I don't know if I'm only |
| 2:20.7 | going to do one cycle of this, which is the goal, or if I'm going to do multiple. I don't know a lot of |
| 2:27.0 | things. I also, let's keep talking about the things I don't know, don't know, maybe I've said this, |
| 2:33.2 | but how I'm going to feel next week. So |
| 2:35.2 | invites, right? People being like, come to this, do that. My guess is that I probably won't be |
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