The What's going on everyone? Emily Abbadi here. You're listening to Five Minute Friday from Hurtle.

I want to talk this week about the fear of starting. It is genuinely something that we all are constantly

experiencing, right? New things, new beginnings, can feel both completely invigorating and also very nerve-racking.

They can bring up a lot of anxiety because new beginnings also come hand in hand with a lot of unknown

oftentimes the fear of starting something new because of that unknown can be very paralyzing.

And it was in a coaching call that I was doing earlier this week where my client said to me that this fear has gotten to a place for her that

feels not only overwhelming but truly debilitating and I asked her to tell me what that fear is

doing for her and she listed through a bunch of negative things and I said it sounds like this fear isn't serving you

is that what you would say and she agreed and I said what if I told you there was a

way to not feel this way anymore and she was ecstatic she was like that's all I want I don't want to let this feel

paralyze me and I asked her how could it feel for you to begin?

And it was the first time that she thought

about the fact that, yes, a beginning can be intimidating,

and yes, there will still be unknown unknown but garnering the courage to begin

allows her to escape from the frustrations that come with the fear of the unknown.

Understandably so, it is so tiring to feel paralyzed

within your decision-making.

But when you get to a point where you can use what's within you, that courage that's within you,

that ability, knowing that previously you have started and you have successfully been a beginner and gotten over that hurdle and moved into the next step and the next step that you have the opportunity to do it again.

And so that's what I call the power of the reframe here.

That's the reframe playing out when you don't do something because you are scared, but you realize that doing that thing can actually provide you a lot of freedom, can actually help you feel better, because that's ultimately, it's the goal right you want to feel good in your life life's too short life's too short to let fear be the thing that is standing in your way from going after the things that excite you, the things that you really truly desire.

And so, to get over that fear, we then used a couple of tools.

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