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What's going on? Emily here. You are listening to Five Minute Friday from Hurtle. Today I want to talk to you about something I did yesterday and that was uphold a boundary. And it felt really good. In fact, as I was telling someone my boundary of, hey, the way that we're communicating

isn't really feeling good for me. I'm not angry. I just think that it's my best interest if we

stop communicating in this way. I didn't for a second shame myself into doing something

that would make them feel comfortable. What I did in that

moment was that I said and upheld a boundary that was in my best interest. The thing about boundaries

is that we often tend to think of them as walls. They are things that we build to keep people out or to be

difficult. But I want to challenge you, if you've been in that mindset before, to reframe that

today. Boundaries, they are not walls. They are bridges. Boundaries are not walls. They are bridges.

They are the instructions we give

others on how to successfully navigate a relationship with us. Without boundaries, we aren't being

nice. I'm doing air quotes right here. We are actually really just setting ourselves up for resentment.

So think about it. How many times have you said yes to a project or a coffee date or a favor only to feel

frustrated the entire time you were doing it? That frustration, it's not about them. It's a signal that you let a

boundary slide. Now, as hers, we are naturally inclined to go the extra mile. We want to be the best founders and friends and sisters and athletes, but the reality is that you cannot run your own race if you are constantly stopping to carry everyone else's luggage. When we don't have clear boundaries, we experience what I often refer to as an energy leak.

You are showing up to your workout tired. You are hitting a wall at your desk by 2 p.m.

And you're feeling disconnected from your own goals. Why? You ask. That's because you are giving

away your most precious resource. and that is your attention.

When you do that, the things that don't actually align with where you're trying to go,

those get in the way. So I know what you're wondering. How do we fix this? We practice what I

will tell you today.

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