Five things to never do with your partner.

Number one, never use the word space.

And what I mean by that is you never want to say to your partner, I need space.

Because the only interpretation that your partner is going to make out of that statement

is you need space from me.

You need space from our relationship.

And that is going to immediately trigger inside of them, insecurity, self-doubt, uncertainty,

and fear because they're a human being.

And if you are in a relationship with someone and they're telling you that they need space

from you and they need space from the relationship, anyone, regardless of attachment style, is going

to feel insecure.

And it is crucial for the health of a relationship that we feel 100% certain and secure. Space is not the same thing as needing

some alone time to nourish your relationship with yourself. It's me time. It could also be,

me time could also be time with just certain friends, just needing time

to feel that connection again with a friend, with yourself, with your creativity. And everyone

has different needs when it comes to alone time. Some people need a lot of alone time. I need a lot

of alone time. That's very different

than saying you need space. Our words and the language that we use to describe our experience

has a biochemical effect on ourselves and on the person we are speaking to. And there is no one who, when their partner says,

I need space, who's going to think that it's not personal. Because you could just as easily

say, you know what, I just, I need a little alone time right now

just to connect with myself, just to, you know, rest, just need a little me time, honey.

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