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Hi, this is Janet Lansbury.

Welcome to Unruffled.

So today, I'm excited about this.

I'm not sure why.

It just feels like maybe long overdue

that I offer a short list of daily reminders

for setting limits.

Our whole attitude towards discipline, actually.

So I thought of this because a lot of you said that you very much appreciated

the list I made seven daily reminders for parents. It was more general parenting reminders.

Some of them were about boundaries and limits and kids' behavior, but it was a more general

approach. And then I realized, well, what's the hardest part of this parenting thing?

For most of us, our children's behavior, our whole attitude towards boundaries, how we make them work, how we can get comfortable and feel successful in our leadership role.

You've heard me talk a lot about being a confident leader,

but what are the reminders that will help us to be in that group?

We all deserve that.

We deserve to feel confident and comfortable and successful as a parent. Will any of us feel this all the time? Absolutely not. Some of us won't even get close to feeling it ever during certain periods of time. But we're all in this for the journey. We know actually kids benefit from us being imperfect. So there's

nothing to lose. And again, we all deserve to feel comfortable and as successful as possible.

So that's what I really hope this list will help you to feel. Now, the whole secret to raising children who generally cooperate with our rules and direction,

it really has very, very little to do with some specific strategy or the words that we use,

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