Hi, this is Lily DeHoya-Sanderson, and you're listening to Choose in Glory.

Thank you for joining me for part two of sections 67 through 70s that we're doing today.

I did want to read a question that somebody sent in, and I might do a little bit more on this on Patreon.

But let's see, I do want to mention it today as well.

And that is, it was a tender question.

So anyway, let me add a couple of comments here in the podcast. Do I need to confess and ask

forgiveness to each of my eight children for the stupid mistakes I made while raising them when

married to an abusive man? Oh, honey.

I mean, it's never wrong to tell our children we're sorry for things that happened or sorry for whatever part.

Our lack of experience or our own injuries may have caused in their journeys too, but be careful that you don't take on

that blamed victim mentality.

It sounds like you were doing the best you could. And that can be pretty limited when we are in

horrible circumstances, where we feel trapped, and we might be trapped for a season. Now, my heart

aches for anybody in those situations and anybody looking back and then seeing, yes, that there are

repercussions that happen intergenerationalally from an abusive household. But like I said,

it's wonderful to express our sorrow. And yes, we're necessary. We did have options that we didn't

exercise soon enough or whatever. We can apologize for that, but don't blame the victim.

Stop short of blaming the victim. That's the important part that I want to quickly communicate.

You are all being victimized. And of course,

we want to help and support our children, and we can share the things that we're learning.

And yes, we can go back and say, if I had known, I would have done this sooner. But don't blame

the victim.

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