This is probably as close to prescriptive as I'm going to get. I really think that almost everybody should figure out how to be alone.

And how to embrace solitude because there are willy times where you don't have the choice

Like where it comes at you and you didn't see it coming so it's nice to build a skill set

But it also just enriches your life and I think it changes how you make decisions, right?

Like if you don't, if you omit the factor of I'm scared to be alone from the way that you choose

what you then do, whether it's partnering or picking up hobbies or whatever else you're doing. I think that it

changes it changes the kinds of things that you bring into your life. It's not just to

fill an empty space like you fill that space so then yeah it just changes the angle of decision making.

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