#495: Stop Pretending You Don’t Have a Choice

The Mark Groves Podcast

Mark Groves

Relationships, Society & Culture

4.9 • 5K Ratings

🗓️ 19 January 2026

⏱️ 15 minutes

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Summary

In this episode I deliver a no-BS reminder that you’re not stuck, you’re actually choosing, and the moment you stop owning your choices is the moment you hand your life over to resentment, helplessness, and disconnection. I break down why radical responsibility is the gateway to real freedom (without denying grief, pain, or the ways you’ve been hurt), and why “pretending you don’t know” is one of the most self-destructive habits we normalize. This is your call to stop playing small, stop colluding with old identities and addictions, and start treating failure as feedback, not a final verdict. Resources: —Get My Breakup 5 Day Audio Series and Workbook: www.createthelove.com/breakupaudio Get My Book! Liberated Love - Release Codependent Patterns and Create the Love You Desire: https://markgroves.com/book —Explore My Courses: https://markgroves.com/courses Follow me and my work here: —Subscribe to my YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/user/markgrovestv —Subscribe to my Substack: https://markgroves.substack.com —Instagram - @createthelove: https://www.instagram.com/createthelove —Facebook - @createthelove: https://www.facebook.com/createthelove Have A Question? —Have a Question For Mark That You’d Like To Hear Answered on the Podcast? Leave us a Voice Note Here: https://www.speakpipe.com/TheMarkGrovesPodcast If you want to dive deeper into Mark’s content, search through every episode, find specific topics we’ve covered, and ask him questions, go to his Dexa page: https://ask.markgroves.com Drop us a note at podcast@markgroves.com for sponsor product support, questions, comments, guest suggestions, or just to say hello! This episode is sponsored by: Institute for Integrative Nutrition: Certified Health Coach Training: Use code MARKGROVES20 for 20% off ALL courses from IIN & Chopra at http://bit.ly/MARKIIN Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

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0:00.0	When you're going through a breakup, it feels like your whole world is unraveling.
0:05.0	And the hardest part isn't just the loss of the relationship, of course.
0:09.0	It's the loss of the story you thought you were living, the story you thought you were going to create.
0:14.0	But I want you to know this.
0:16.0	Heartbreak doesn't have to be the end.
0:18.0	It can actually be the beginning.
0:20.0	It is the beginning if you let it be.
0:23.6	And that's why I created the breakup recovery audio series. It's a five-day journey to help you
0:28.7	move through heartbreak with compassion, clarity, and strength. For just 30 bucks, you'll get
0:33.6	guided audio teachings, powerful stories, daily activities, and a full reflection
0:38.3	workbook to work through alongside me. This isn't about bypassing your pain. That's BS. It's about
0:44.0	giving you the tools to process it, learn from it, and emerge more grounded in who you truly
0:49.3	are. And finally, putting an end to the patterns in relationship that you keep finding yourself
0:53.6	in.
1:00.3	So if you're ready to start healing, head to create the love.com slash breakup audio and begin today for just $30 because heartbreak doesn't define you. Your recovery does.
1:06.2	Hello and welcome to another episode of the Mark Groves podcast. Today I'm coming at you
1:10.4	with the solo episode.
1:12.5	And really the premise of this is that I think we just need to normalize that life is hard.
1:17.5	I think we need to normalize that even when you're reaching for the thing that you've always wanted,
1:23.2	that it is normal, that it's going to be hard, that like all of the things that are in the way,
1:29.9	the challenges that can feel like, oh man, like nothing is letting me get to the thing.
1:35.9	Like why won't the universe or God work with me?
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