Welcome to the happiness podcast. I'm Dr. Robert Puff. In our incredibly fast-paced world these days, I think people overall are finding it more difficult

to just have quiet time and reflect on how their life is going and how their life has gone. So what doesn't surprise me as a clinical

psychologist working in private practice is that when clients come to me and we talk about

something in their past which happened perhaps years or decades ago, how they can often

come to tears or anger, even though they haven't thought about that event for so long,

and it happened so many years ago. How's that possible? Doesn't time heal all wounds? I mean

we hear things like forgive and forget, move let it go these things should work don't

they how can we possibly still be affected emotionally by something that happened years

or decades ago.

I've always had an affinity for people that are older.

I don't know why. I just really enjoy hearing their stories,

learning about their past,

and really getting to know who they are and how they got to where they're at.

And you may want to try this out sometime too. Just sit down with someone, perhaps a

grandparent or a family friend, who's lived a long life and just sit down with them and ask them about their life to go over what happened in their lives what were the major events.

You might be surprised how when they talk about something that happened long, long ago, they can still come to tears or anger, or they don't want to talk about it.

Last year I went to Poland and while I was there I visited Auschwitz and everyone knows about Auschwitz and all the horrors that happened there.

Well when I was on the tour, I remember the tour guide saying that over the years some of the survivors of Auschwitz had come back to visit the camp.

And this had been decades since the horrific experiences they had at the camp.

But the one thing the guide said that was true for all

the visitors is they didn't want to talk about their experience at the camp. They had no desire

to share anything about their experience in the camp, at least the ones

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