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Wire Talk with Karen Stubbs

494: Helping Teens Grow Up: Boundaries, Phones & Real-Life Responsibility

Wire Talk with Karen Stubbs

Karen Stubbs

Christianity, Motherhood, Parenting, Parenting Advice, Religion & Spirituality, Kids & Family, Christian Parent, Faith

4.9936 Ratings

🗓️ 25 November 2025

⏱️ 25 minutes

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Summary

Today Karen is tackling your questions about navigating the teenage years, from motivating strong-willed teens to handling independence, changing relationships, and the ever-present “that’s not fair!” Karen shares what worked in her home, including how to stay connected to strong-willed teens, helping boys who are pulling away, and parenting through the ever-changing norms of phones, jobs, and freedom.

Episode Recap:

  • You can be strict in the teen years and have great relationships with adult kids (4:00)
  • Give them a “no, because…” during the teen years (5:54)
  • How do I motivate my 15 year old to help out around home? (7:25)
  • Help! My 13 yr old thinks he knows everything! (11:37)
  • My teenage son is pulling away, I feel sad and rejected (15:35)
  • How do you handle keeping things “fair” during the teenage years? (18:40)
  • We have to remember our teens are growing up and that’s messy (22:01)


Scripture: James 1:5 (NIV) 
“If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you.”


Discussion Questions: 

  1. Where do you struggle most in balancing independence and safety with your teen?
  2. Are you naturally stronger in boundaries or connection? What needs strengthening?
  3. How does remembering your teen is still maturing affect your responses to them?
  4. Who supports you during the teen years, and how can you invite more support?


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Transcript

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0:00.0

How do you get your 15-year-old to do the responsibilities around the house that they need to do? She is wanting to get a job outside the home. I told her if she couldn't do her responsibilities at home, then she would not be able to get a job. You know what? I would use this job in that is what I would use to motivate her. If you want to get a job, that's great and let's do that, but you also have these things you have to do, sort of like what she said.

0:23.6

But here's the other thing. If she gets a job, they are going to be teaching her responsibility.

0:28.6

Yes. And I would leverage them to sort of help you on that front. Because when you work outside the home home they expect certain things of their employees

0:40.0

and they want them to do things certain ways and they want them to do it right and all that so

0:44.4

they're going to be teaching her all of that and then hopefully as she continues to grow she

0:49.3

will also mature hey everybody welcome to wire talk well last week we talked about potty training and this week we're going to Sure. Hey, everybody. Welcome to Wiretalk.

0:54.6

Well, last week we talked about potty training, and this week we're going fast forward, and we're getting to the teen years.

1:01.1

And sometimes these years can be the most challenging for parents.

1:05.2

These are great questions that the moms wrote in, and I cannot wait to dive in and to give them some tools to put in

1:13.0

their tool belt to help them with the teenagers.

1:15.2

Let's get going.

1:21.2

Hey, moms, and welcome to Wire Talk.

1:23.1

I'm your host, Emily, and with me is the fabulous Karen, or as I call Mom.

1:27.2

Hello, Mom. Hello, how are you, M? Good. Do you know, I just realized? What? When I do the intro and I'm about to introduce you, I go really low. Like, this is my mom. I don't think I've ever noticed that. I think I don't know why. I'm like, I'm Emily and this is my mom. That's so weird. You got to get serious about it. You're so funny. Mom, I just am so happy. It's like a crisp fall day. The leaves are wrestling. It's just, and you know what? The part of fall, because y'all, we record this a month thoroughly. So we are in mid-October right now. And it's the best part of fall because the leaves are still on the trees.

2:02.8

They're pretty. They're starting to fall, but they haven't all the way fallen. They're pretty

2:07.8

colors. And it's just, it's beautiful. I know. Well, we're talking about something hard but awesome

2:14.1

season. We're talking about teens today. But you know what I'm thinking about it as we're

2:18.2

about to talk about teens yesterday. You had all of your kids around the dinner table. You had the

2:24.4

grandkids. The kids got in the hot tub after dinner and all of the adult kids and their spouses.

2:30.7

All sitting on the patio. All sitting on the back patio. Brian built a fire. How does that make your heart feel? Oh, amazing and wonderful. I mean, hashtag goals. I mean, it's just... The only sad part of his dad was not there. Yeah, he wasn't. He did tell me to send him. No, he was in Japan. Oh, Japan. Sorry. He was in New Zealand a few days before that. I know he moves around

2:51.5

a lot, but yeah, he was in Japan. He did say, send me a picture of everybody around the table. He

2:56.7

wanted to see it. So even though he wasn't there, in spirit and in heart, he was there. But I mean,

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