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The Terri Cole Show

484 Answering Your Qs About Anger | Reactive Abuse, Passive-Aggressive + Healthy Anger

The Terri Cole Show

Terri Cole

Relationships, Society & Culture, Health & Fitness, Mental Health

4.91.5K Ratings

🗓️ 28 February 2023

⏱️ 22 minutes

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Summary

Have you heard the terms "reactive abuse" or "reactive anger" making the rounds on social media? Are you wondering what the heck it means? 

Are you curious if passive-aggressive anger factors into this? 

Or maybe you want to know: can anger ever be healthy?

I have received a number of emails asking me to clarify all of these terms, so in today's episode, I break down what reactive abuse/reactive anger is, what passive-aggressive anger is, and what healthy anger might look like. 

If your relationship with anger has been tenuous at best, or if you are seeking clarity on an abusive situation, this episode is for you.

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Transcript

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0:00.0

Well, hello there and welcome to the Terry Cole show.

0:03.2

I am so psyched that you are here.

0:05.7

I wanna start by asking you a question.

0:07.4

Have you ever heard of the term reactive anger

0:10.4

or reactive abuse?

0:12.5

Because I've seen a lot on the interwebs lately about this

0:16.1

and I've had a bunch of people ask me questions.

0:18.2

So in this episode, I'm gonna be talking about

0:20.9

reactive anger, passive aggressive anger, and healthy anger.

0:25.7

Because I think that for a lot of folks

0:28.3

growing up in homes, maybe like my home was,

0:31.0

which where anger was really not allowed,

0:33.2

and then some people grew up in super chaotic homes

0:35.5

where it was all anger all the time.

0:37.6

Either way, we have a disordered relationship to anger.

0:41.1

So I'm hoping that this episode can create

0:43.8

some clarity for you.

0:46.3

So I wanna take a moment to say thank you

0:48.3

for hanging out with me because you know,

0:49.9

I love it when you hang out with me

0:51.5

and I know you could be doing lots of other things,

0:53.7

but you're here and it really, really warms my heart.

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