Welcome to the happiness podcast. I'm Dr. Robert Puff. In our last episode we started our four-part

series on relationships. In that episode we explored on how to be a good partner. In this episode we're going to look at how to find a good partner.

And it really boils down to two parts. The first part relates to an adage, an adage that we all know.

It's birds of a feather flock together.

This is the correct adage. We don't want opposite attracts.

Opposets do attract at first, but in the long run they don't do very well.

So what we're looking for is someone like us as much as possible.

But in order for this to work out well, so whether we have a great relationship in the long run,

we have to go back to the previous episode.

And the previous episode was how to be a great partner.

Because if we're not a great partner, we're going to attract someone who isn't going to reciprocate that.

We need to first be a great partner because if we are a great partner, loving, kind, supportive, listening, taking good care of ourselves, being healthy, being happy,

then that's what we're going to attract.

But if we are dysfunctional, struggling, having a hard time, then that's also what we're going to attract.

So yes, it's super important to find someone like us, but we need to be like someone we want to find.

And those are the two things you want to walk away with with this episode.

Find someone like ourselves, but also be the person that I would like to date.

With those two in mind, we're going to do... be the person that I would like to date.

With those two in mind, we're going to do pretty well finding a partner.

But let's look at them more in depthly.

Well, the first thing we need to do is really to be that good partner. We need to be in a place that's healthy,

that we're taking care of ourselves.

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